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OBGYN question I want to ask T, could trigger

Posted by happyflower on June 10, 2005, at 19:54:11

Has any of this ever happened to you? In my last week of pregnacy, I told one of my OBGYN (who was in his 70's)that I was suffering from constipation, thinking he would give me a pill or something. But instead he took his finger, without me being warned, jamed it into my rectum! It hurt something aweful. I don't remember what I told him, but it wasn't too nice. The nurse in the room looked at me with the saddest eyes.

Well a couple of years ago, I was talking to my cousins wife who was married to a doctor. She told me that they were going to this other doctors funeral, and it was this guy. I told her the only thing I will remember from him was the story I just told you all. Well she said he was also her OBGYN, and it happened to her too. Is this a common thing? All I know is that I felt violated. Should I bring this up in therapy?


Well this memory also brought up another one back when I was 10 or so. I got really sick with stomach pains and threw up and filled a 5 gallon bucket. My mom rushed me to the ER and to make a long story short, they thought I was pregnant ( i hit puberty at 9)and wanted to examine me internally. I wouldn't let them and then they wanted to do it anally, I wouldn't let them do it either, but they tried and gave up. I never even had sex before. Never had a gyno examine either, and it scared me. They did this without my mother in the room ( not that she was any comfort anyways).They told her to leave the room to ask me some questions about my sexual life for privicy from my mom. But it was scary.

Now I got to thinking that maybe several months ago when my therapist brought up EMDR, it totally freaked me out. It was like he went from a therapist to a doctor because he wanted to do something physically to me. Maybe this is why I freaked out, or maybe it isn't connected. I have never been sexually abused, unless you consider what the doctor did, and I live a very good sexual life, so I don't know what to think but maybe I should bring it up in therapy. What do you all think?

 

extra long post, please scroll all the way down (nm)

Posted by happyflower on June 10, 2005, at 19:57:34

In reply to OBGYN question I want to ask T, could trigger, posted by happyflower on June 10, 2005, at 19:54:11

 

I guess I am talking now and can't shut up, lol (nm)

Posted by happyflower on June 11, 2005, at 0:07:15

In reply to OBGYN question I want to ask T, could trigger, posted by happyflower on June 10, 2005, at 19:54:11

 

It's okay

Posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 0:27:53

In reply to I guess I am talking now and can't shut up, lol (nm), posted by happyflower on June 11, 2005, at 0:07:15

Clearly, this was something traumatic for you. That doc sure sounds like he was insensitive at the very least. I'm so sorry that happened.

In my experience, talking about stuff like this in therapy is difficult, and maybe embarrassing. But my T has been wonderful about some of the more embarrassing things I wanted to talk about. I still kind of look at myself and say "I can't believe I am talking about this." But he makes it safe, and it always seems to help.

I hope your T makes it safe and okay for you to talk about.

gg

 

Re: It's okay gardenergirl

Posted by happyflower on June 11, 2005, at 0:34:30

In reply to It's okay, posted by gardenergirl on June 11, 2005, at 0:27:53

Thanks GG, I don't know if this from the past affects me or not. I don't have a problem with talking to my T about this. After 6 months of therapy, I finally safe and feel I can trust him. Which is huge for me. I hope he is at the top of his game Wed. because I have a lot to talk about. And now that I trust him, I probably won't ever shut up! lol He opened that can of worms! lol

 

Re: OBGYN question I want to ask T, could trigger happyflower

Posted by Dinah on June 11, 2005, at 9:54:53

In reply to OBGYN question I want to ask T, could trigger, posted by happyflower on June 10, 2005, at 19:54:11

I've talked about things like this with my therapist. It's a bit embarassing, but I always feel that the experience loses a bit of its charge by sharing it.

 

Re: OBGYN question I want to ask T, could trigger

Posted by Jazzed on June 11, 2005, at 20:28:07

In reply to OBGYN question I want to ask T, could trigger, posted by happyflower on June 10, 2005, at 19:54:11

OMGosh! This sounds horrible! At the very least, that doctor was VERY insensitive. I agree with gg and dinah, it really bothers you, talk about it, your T is awesome!

Jazzy

 

Re: OBGYN question I want to ask T, could trigger

Posted by sleepygirl on June 12, 2005, at 21:26:41

In reply to OBGYN question I want to ask T, could trigger, posted by happyflower on June 10, 2005, at 19:54:11

Oh happyflower, I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you. I think it's definitely something to bring up. I can imagine those incidents were really scary. Yes it will be uncomfortable, but the effects of it have stayed with you so it's important for you to talk about it. The loss of control, feeling violated, embarrassed-all of that-Take care.

 

Re: OBGYN question I want to ask T, could trigger

Posted by B2chica on June 17, 2005, at 10:14:53

In reply to OBGYN question I want to ask T, could trigger, posted by happyflower on June 10, 2005, at 19:54:11

(((((happyflower)))))
am sorry this happpened to you. that is certainly not somthing you forget. i can't add much to what others said here-they said it so very well.
b2c.

 

more info on what T shared with me about this

Posted by happyflower on June 17, 2005, at 10:46:02

In reply to Re: OBGYN question I want to ask T, could trigger, posted by B2chica on June 17, 2005, at 10:14:53

Yeah, my T aggreed that what he did was insensitive. He wants to do EMDR on me about this. He told me that EMDR caused such a positive shift in me that is truely amazing. It could be "old medicine" because this guy was in his 70's. Then he told me what some medical interns at this VA hospitial had to do to some psch. patients. I guess these people often don't eat correctly and a lot of their medicines cause constipation. Well if an soapy enema didn't work, they had to go in digging it out physically. Those poor beginner interns got stuck with this job. I am sure it isn't too comforable for the patients either. Actually I don't even feel comfortable talking about this without my stomach turning.
But then the conversation went on to his personal info about his experiences. More than I wanted to know about him! lol Actually I am surprised on what he shared, maybe he was just trying for me to see he understands. But we both agree that it should be a one way exit only. lol


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