Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 509908

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Have I told you I have a great Therapist?

Posted by daisym on June 9, 2005, at 0:05:55

There are so many hard things happening at once for me that today I was on complete overload. I said to my therapist, "I just can't take anymore. I have no more resources to cope with this weekend, but I can't have another melt down in front of my family."

The story behind the story is that last Sat was the first family get together that included my dad in over two years. (I saw him last summer at his house but this time he is out here.) When I walked in to my brother's house, my dad hugged me and I had to retreat to the bathroom to squelch the tears. By Sat night I was FURIOUS with my therapist, a completely irrational response. I told him Monday after much pushing and pulling on his part, that I was mad at him. I said I didn't understand my reaction but I knew what it was. I wanted permission to not go, and I really wanted him to tell me that this was bad for me, and I wanted him to say that it was OK to not let my dad touch me in anyway. I guess I wanted to be rescued or saved. He said he could totally understand my being angry at him that he didn't/couldn't do that for me. He said he felt a strong urge to drop kick my dad or to stand as a shield between us. (I had to laugh) But, the reality is that I have to do those things for myself, but he would provide emotional support. He said this time things are really different for the younger parts of me, because he is with me. I'm not alone with my fears. I said it was super hard to hear him in my head last weekend, there was too much anxiety.

We've been talking about this the past few days, trying to plan responses, role playing a little and even making a list of how to duck out of a few things over the next 4 days. I said four days is not that long, I can get through this. I said I'd be "fine." My therapist looked at me and said, "You know I never buy it when you say that sh**, so don't even go there." And then he said he had a way to help me keep him with me. Last summer he gave me his talisman to hold while he was on vacation. It is this little tiny pouch, about thumb size, with a piece of turquoise in it. He put his picture in it last summer and wrote on the back "I'll be back." I loved it. I kept the picture but gave him back his pouch when he returned. He brought it and gave it to me again today. This time he put his cell phone number in it. He said he was hoping that if I had it to hold for the weekend I wouldn't feel so alone. And he was also hoping that giving the number to me again would make me believe that it was OK to let little daisy call him if she was really upset. He said "I" could call too...And he was really gentle and sincere about the whole thing so it felt OK -- I could feel his caring and worry but it didn't freak me out.

I know it is kind of a silly thing. And yes, I feel really immature, and clingy and needy again. But right now, for the next few days, I'm going to take the support being offered. Because I am really, really on empty. I'll worry about the symbolic nature of all of this later. I'm sure I'll end up apologizing or worrying again about my feelings for him. But again, right now, all I can think is that I'm very, very lucky to have found him.

I just wanted to share.

 

Re: Have I told you I have a great Therapist? daisym

Posted by Dinah on June 9, 2005, at 0:13:51

In reply to Have I told you I have a great Therapist?, posted by daisym on June 9, 2005, at 0:05:55

I don't think you can say it often enough, Daisy.

He really is wonderful.

 

Re: Have I told you I have a great Therapist?

Posted by gardenergirl on June 9, 2005, at 5:34:32

In reply to Re: Have I told you I have a great Therapist? daisym, posted by Dinah on June 9, 2005, at 0:13:51

What a wonderful thing he did and does. I'm glad he's your T. Hold tight to that talisman.

gg

 

Re: Have I told you I have a great Therapist?

Posted by annierose on June 9, 2005, at 7:04:40

In reply to Re: Have I told you I have a great Therapist?, posted by gardenergirl on June 9, 2005, at 5:34:32

Yes, and keep telling us. He seems to know just what to say and do. I think I would rub that stone over and over to feel the magic of your T.

Very thoughtful.

I'm sorry you had to endure that day with your father. A hug is too much.

Annierose

 

Re: Have I told you I have a great Therapist?

Posted by Jazzed on June 9, 2005, at 7:57:44

In reply to Re: Have I told you I have a great Therapist?, posted by annierose on June 9, 2005, at 7:04:40

He does sound wonderful, and you're blessed to have him. I agree, keep telling us.

Jazzy

 

Re: Have I told you I have a great Therapist? daisym

Posted by Shortelise on June 9, 2005, at 12:21:30

In reply to Have I told you I have a great Therapist?, posted by daisym on June 9, 2005, at 0:05:55

((((daisy))))

(((daisy's T))))

 

Nothing else to say other than-- WOW!!!! daisym

Posted by pinkeye on June 9, 2005, at 13:23:01

In reply to Have I told you I have a great Therapist?, posted by daisym on June 9, 2005, at 0:05:55

You do deserve someone like that. Great to hear. I think somehow God sent him to you to replace all the sorrows that you had with your dad.

 

Re: Have I told you I have a great Therapist? daisym

Posted by littleone on June 9, 2005, at 15:57:56

In reply to Have I told you I have a great Therapist?, posted by daisym on June 9, 2005, at 0:05:55

What an awful situation daisy (with your dad, not your T!)

I get this great urge to run over to your side and jab my finger at your dad whenever he needs to back off.

I also wanted to remind you that just because your T won't tell you that you have permission to not go or you can tell your dad that there's no touching, doesn't mean that you can't decide for yourself if they are the best things for you. He can't rescue you, but you can rescue yourself.

And yes, you do have a great T. I'm so glad that he's with you. That you have such a strong support. (Although I still wouldn't say no to the cloning idea :)

And I hope you let little daisy or big daisy or any daisy use the number he gave you. Give yourself permission to lean on him - at least for this little duration.

Sending you warm thoughts to tide you over.

 

Re: Have I told you I have a great Therapist? daisym

Posted by Tamar on June 9, 2005, at 18:23:33

In reply to Have I told you I have a great Therapist?, posted by daisym on June 9, 2005, at 0:05:55

Your therapist really is wonderful!

I'll be thinking of you over the next few days. I imagine it must be very hard for you. I hope you and little daisy will take him up on his offer to call him whenever you need to.

Tamar


 

Re: Have I told you I have a great Therapist? daisym

Posted by Poet on June 9, 2005, at 21:57:44

In reply to Have I told you I have a great Therapist?, posted by daisym on June 9, 2005, at 0:05:55

Safe Cyber Hugs (((((((((Every Daisy)))))))))

My therapist said she wishes she could go back in time and chain up my brother until I was old enough to escape the house. I wish yours could really drop kick your father.

Your T is absolutely wonderful. You deserve a wonderful therapist.

Poet

 

Re: Have I told you I have a great Therapist? daisym

Posted by crushedout on June 10, 2005, at 13:47:10

In reply to Have I told you I have a great Therapist?, posted by daisym on June 9, 2005, at 0:05:55

He sounds amazing, Daisy. I'm deeply envious but also inspired and happy for you.


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