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Pinkeye, maybe this will help

Posted by Jazzed on June 6, 2005, at 9:30:23

This article was posted in a previous thread. It was interesting, infomative, and LONG, but worth it. It is about dependency in therapy.

http://www.trauma-pages.com/steele-2001.htm

Jazzy

 

Re: Pinkeye, maybe this will help Jazzed

Posted by cricket on June 6, 2005, at 11:23:16

In reply to Pinkeye, maybe this will help, posted by Jazzed on June 6, 2005, at 9:30:23

Hi Jazzed,

I read that article a while ago and it is very interesting.

I particularly like the charts - Manifestations of dependency and Countertransference positions in relation to dependency. I am very counter dependent. My therapist, however, is very balanced. If he errs on one side, it is towards the distanced and never the enmeshed.

I guess that's what I was trying to say in the "What I like about my T" thread above. I like that he doesn't want to take care of me.

I think that perhaps it is not so easy all the time for therapists, especially when you are dealing with a patient who has suffered extreme abuse. If they care, it must be hard not to become enmeshed.

Do any of you feel that your Ts are too distanced or too enmeshed?

 

Re: Pinkeye, maybe this will help Jazzed

Posted by pinkeye on June 6, 2005, at 13:25:11

In reply to Pinkeye, maybe this will help, posted by Jazzed on June 6, 2005, at 9:30:23

Thanks a lot Jazzed. I will read it in more detail.

I think my ex T didn't quite grasp the problems I had with dependancy and how dependant a personality I really was. I think he thought I am allright for the most part and that I am pretty independant and he must have thought leaving me was the best thing to do to help me. I am a much more emotionally troubled person than he thought I was.

 

I think it is really about my father. Not my ex T. Jazzed

Posted by pinkeye on June 6, 2005, at 14:22:36

In reply to Pinkeye, maybe this will help, posted by Jazzed on June 6, 2005, at 9:30:23

I think the intense dependancy, and the anxiety at the separation and Good bye is really about my dad. I think I just wrongly shifted it to my ex T.

That is why I feel life is so meaningless now. I can't really even find any meaning to life now. (not suicidal, but just no desire to live well).

And life seems pretty empty even though things are going fine with my husband etc.

I think it reminds me that I cannot hold on to my father for a long time and I have to be on my own in my life, and that is why it seems so meaningless and empty.

 

pinkeye ((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))) (nm) pinkeye

Posted by Jazzed on June 6, 2005, at 17:30:54

In reply to I think it is really about my father. Not my ex T. Jazzed, posted by pinkeye on June 6, 2005, at 14:22:36


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