Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 453755

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behavior of kids

Posted by judy1 on February 5, 2005, at 19:24:44

my son has just entered teendom and my daughter is almost three (but very two) and I am struck at how similar their behavior is- tantrums interspersed with the sweetest of behaviors. any other parents out there who have some advice on how to deal with this? it's absolutely exhausting.
thanks, judy

 

Re: behavior of kids

Posted by namaste on February 5, 2005, at 20:14:21

In reply to behavior of kids, posted by judy1 on February 5, 2005, at 19:24:44

Don't worry they still do it when they are 20 years old!!!!!!I talk alot about this with my T.You have to enjoy the sweet moments and know that your kids love you. They have tantrums because they are have their own issues, the trick is to not react (very difficult).
They can release their independence and frustration on lucky you because they feel you are safe. Set up your boundaries now for your kids and you. Believe me i know what happens when you don't.Most important be good to yourself. Do your favorite things, eat a treat, do yoga. breathe. good luck. parenting is a hard job, i know.

 

Re: behavior of kids

Posted by antigua on February 7, 2005, at 9:50:34

In reply to behavior of kids, posted by judy1 on February 5, 2005, at 19:24:44

My T has told me that these two stages are very similar, that if teens didn't get certain issues resolved at that young age, they will return to them as teenagers to try to work through them again. As a parent, it's like having a second chance to resolve the issues. I thought that was great, and it gives me hope w/my teenager!
antigua

 

Re: behavior of kids judy1

Posted by mair on February 7, 2005, at 16:17:00

In reply to behavior of kids, posted by judy1 on February 5, 2005, at 19:24:44

Judy - as you've no doubt noted from some of my posts, I'm probably not the person to give anyone advice about kids who act out. I will tell you that I found 3 to be a much tougher age for me to deal with than 2, and that I live for those moments in the life of a teen, when they are really sweet. As long as I get enough of those, I forgive alot. And in some ways the unexpected moments are the best.

Mair

Just be thankful that your 2 kids are far enough apart in age that they aren't fighting over who gets to sit in the front seat. (-;

 

Re: behavior of kids namaste

Posted by judy1 on February 7, 2005, at 20:29:19

In reply to Re: behavior of kids, posted by namaste on February 5, 2005, at 20:14:21

Oh lovely (the 20 y.o. part)- something to look forward to :-). They just know exactly what buttons to push and I really, really try to breathe. thanks for the advice- judy

 

Re: behavior of kids antigua

Posted by judy1 on February 7, 2005, at 20:31:06

In reply to Re: behavior of kids, posted by antigua on February 7, 2005, at 9:50:34

that's interesting, I should pay closer attention to what issue my teen is wrestling with. mostly I just react, and I know I need to work on that.
thanks, judy

 

Re: behavior of kids mair

Posted by judy1 on February 7, 2005, at 20:35:47

In reply to Re: behavior of kids judy1, posted by mair on February 7, 2005, at 16:17:00

was 3 an age with more tantrums-is that why it was more difficult? I do know part of me just knows this is how I acted when I was 2- my son was much easier at that age (but he's making up for it now). You're right about the car part :-) plus I have a great babysitter!
take care, judy


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