Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 397923

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:-)

Posted by Dinah on October 1, 2004, at 13:43:17

Some hope.

A very in tune session today. Very serious. Which I suppose it needed to be given the subject matter.

But towards the end I shared with him a post (well most of it, I didn't share the bad stuff in it) I had cause to remember last night.

http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040218/msgs/315688.html

I hadn't shared it with him when I wrote it, because it made me too vulnerable. I think it discloses a lot more than I'm usually comfortable disclosing.

And he valued it too! He asked for a copy, which I'll give him after I cut some stuff from it. He said that it meant a lot to him, not only because it was an accurate picture of our relationship, but because it was what he always thought therapeutic relationships should be like.

It pleased me so much that he accepted it as he would accept a gift.

Anyway, the reason I brought it was that reading it last night gave me a bit of hope. A hope that I could fight for what I need, even if it's my therapist I'm fighting. :)

Sometimes a little hope means so much.

It left me with a good feeling that I'll need, because he headed out of town for a last minute business trip and I won't see him till next week. I can call him if I need to, though.

 

Re: :-) Dinah

Posted by Aphrodite on October 1, 2004, at 14:24:24

In reply to :-), posted by Dinah on October 1, 2004, at 13:43:17

I wasn't on the board when you wrote your original post, but I was so glad to read it. What an eloquent portrayal of your work together! I'm sure he felt honored to have what you do depicted so honestly.

You were definitely in need of a positive session, and I'm glad you got it. You deserve it! It sounds like things are moving in the right direction. You gave him a lot to think about on that business trip. I hope the momentum will carry you through until he returns.

 

Re: :-)

Posted by tabitha on October 1, 2004, at 14:28:08

In reply to :-), posted by Dinah on October 1, 2004, at 13:43:17

> Sometimes a little hope means so much.
>

So true, Dinah. And Wow! it was brave of you to read that post to him. Five gold stars!

 

Re: :-) Aphrodite

Posted by Dinah on October 1, 2004, at 16:17:07

In reply to Re: :-) Dinah, posted by Aphrodite on October 1, 2004, at 14:24:24

I always remembered I wrote that post, but I didn't remember how important it was to me until I reread it. It really does accurately depict our relationship.

I suspect he'll forget all about me as soon as I left the room. But for a moment I touched him, and that felt good.

There were other good moments in the session too. I was trying to point out that I knew what was going on was difficult for him, while also pointing out that I realized there was a huge discrepancy in how invested we each were. Because he was the only therapist but I was one of many clients. Like a teacher with many students. And he said that he might have many clients but he didn't have many mes. When I smiled because I wasn't quite sure how he meant that, he said that he didn't have many clients he'd seen for nine years, and neither did most teachers. Mentors maybe, but not teachers. That was kind of nice too. I can't remember most of the session, but I don't think he was angry with me.

 

Re: :-) tabitha

Posted by Dinah on October 1, 2004, at 16:20:39

In reply to Re: :-), posted by tabitha on October 1, 2004, at 14:28:08

Thanks for recognizing that, Tabitha.

I had given him plenty of time because he clearly had things he wanted to say, and I was really worried we wouldn't get to the post.

I was really sort of scared to read it. I stopped many times to judge his reaction. If he had looked the slightest bit uncomfortable, I'd have stopped.

So I'll take those stars and put them on my forehead, like I used to like to do. :)

 

Re: :-) Dinah

Posted by JenStar on October 1, 2004, at 18:36:45

In reply to Re: :-) Aphrodite, posted by Dinah on October 1, 2004, at 16:17:07

hi Dinah,
I'm so glad that your T values your ideas and feedback & thoughts. That's very cool! :) Very affirming.

I think the longer you stay with a T, the more important the relationship becomes. I'm sure you mean many things to him -- you've helped him learn about himself, given him opportunities to help you and to grow himself doing it, allowed him to find that ideal therapist/client relationship. That DOESN'T happen with every person, and I think in that sense you are very important to him, even if he doesn't think about you constantly. But when he DOES think about you, it's with respect (it sounds like!) and affection and deep interest.

I think you're brave to give him a copy of the post. YOu have a lot of courage!

JenStar

 

Re: :-) Dinah

Posted by crazymaisie on October 1, 2004, at 23:01:01

In reply to :-), posted by Dinah on October 1, 2004, at 13:43:17

hi Dinah

glad to hear things are looking up, even just a little. hope it keeps getting better

maisie

 

That's what he says. :) JenStar

Posted by Dinah on October 2, 2004, at 9:16:27

In reply to Re: :-) Dinah, posted by JenStar on October 1, 2004, at 18:36:45

And I'd have to agree. I can't imagine having me as a client for very long without having my capabilities stretched quite a bit. :)

 

Re: Me too. Fingers crossed. Thanks :) (nm) crazymaisie

Posted by Dinah on October 2, 2004, at 9:17:18

In reply to Re: :-) Dinah, posted by crazymaisie on October 1, 2004, at 23:01:01

 

Re: That's what he says. :) Dinah

Posted by Daisym on October 2, 2004, at 13:00:44

In reply to That's what he says. :) JenStar, posted by Dinah on October 2, 2004, at 9:16:27

Dinah,

First, glad you are back. I missed you. :)

Second, I'm glad hope is breaking through. You've worked long and hard to get your therapy relationship to where you want it and as you life changes those therapy needs change. I have great faith that you will again struggle to where you need to be with your therapist.

Relationships evolve just like people do and based on needs, information and anticipation, we respond to those changes. You are doing a great job of responding.

I'm impressed and amazed, as always. You are coping with SOO many stressors right now. You deserve a break. So, here is a joke for you:


A man sat quietly reading his morning paper one Sunday morning. Suddenly, he is knocked almost senseless by his wife, who stands behind him holding a frying pan in hand.

Man: "What was that for?"

Wife: "Why do you have a piece of paper in your pocket with "Daisy" written on it?"

Man: "Oh honey, don't you remember two weeks ago when I went to the horse races? Daisy was the name of the horse I bet on."

The wife was satisfied, and apologized for bonking him. Three days later he is again sitting reading the paper when once again he is bonked on the head.

Man: "What's that for this time?"

Wife: "Your horse called."


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