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Yawning Therapist

Posted by AUGUSTINA on September 26, 2004, at 13:03:37

Just curious how others react or feel when your T yawns while you're in session. On occasion my therapist will yawn while I'm speaking and this irritates me somewhat. His yawns are more or less "discreet" and all but yet I still can't help but think, "am I boring this man to death or something??"!
I've never brought this up to my T b/c I'd feel foolish doing so.
Am I being unreasonably sensitive about this?
Thanks.

p.s:at least he's never actually fallen asleep during one of my appointments!!

 

Re: Yawning Therapist

Posted by shortelise on September 26, 2004, at 13:23:32

In reply to Yawning Therapist, posted by AUGUSTINA on September 26, 2004, at 13:03:37

In the six years I have been seeing him, my T has never once yawned during therapy. Never once. He has sneezed, coughed, passed gas (either that or something dead passed the window), laughed, teared up, had back spasms, etc. But never yawned.

It would have depended on what phase of therapy we were in how I would have felt about it. It would have gone between you're tired and you hate my guts and want me to die and leave you alone.

Of course, he may not yawn because I am a scintillating person, a fascinating case, and so mesmerisingly attractive. Hm... probably not.

ShortE

 

Re: Yawning Therapist AUGUSTINA

Posted by Dinah on September 26, 2004, at 17:59:12

In reply to Yawning Therapist, posted by AUGUSTINA on September 26, 2004, at 13:03:37

Mine used to yawn a lot. And his eyes would droop. Sometimes I would keep up a soothing murmer until he actually nodded off and jerked awake. I finally addressed the issue, after researching it a lot on my own. I realized that part of the problem was that I was really out of touch with my feelings and came across rather flat. Once I was able to offer up what I thought was my side of the problem, I brought it up with him. At first I was pretty tentative. I notice you seem to be sleepy an awful lot when you're in session with me. Is this a problem for you in general or is it me in particular. Is there any way we can work on helping keep you awake. Is my flatness of affect a problem.

We finally figured out a few things that helped. A good part of the problem was that we met shortly after lunch, and he had sugar high. We switched seats so that I was on the sofa and he was on the chair. I started pointing out to him when he looked sleepy so he could get up and walk around if he needed to. He started being honest if I asked about it.

Now, we've been together long enough that I would probably just ask if he needed to end our session early to take a nap or ask what debauchery he'd been up to the night before. :)

Did I go to extraordinary lengths to maintain a good relationship with a therapist, when theoretically it was his job to do that, not mine? Yes. Would the problem have been solved if I hadn't? Probably not. Am I sorry I went above and beyond the call of a therapy client? Well to all of those of you who would say I should have dumped his sorry *ss, I would say that I don't regret it at all.

He was a good therapist with a few flaws. I worked on the flaws. I think I did a pretty good job with him, and will always think of him as my fixer upper therapist.

Now I just need to teach him to do the stuff Daisy and Aphrodite's therapists do.

 

Re: Yawning Therapist AUGUSTINA

Posted by thewrite1 on September 28, 2004, at 19:47:30

In reply to Yawning Therapist, posted by AUGUSTINA on September 26, 2004, at 13:03:37

My T will yawn on occasion. The first couple of times I ignored it even though I was annoyed. Then one day I was in a really bad mood going in. She yawned. I asked her, "AM I BORING YOU??" She said I wasn't that she was just tired. She even fell asleep on me once. I didn't say anything at the time, but the next session I brought it up. It seems it was a problem for her to stay awake because I wasn't talking. Since I've started having ongoing conversations with her, she hasn't yawned at all. It doesn't really bother me anymore. If she did yawn, I'd probably just ask her what she'd done the night before or something.

 

Re: Yawning Therapist AUGUSTINA

Posted by terrics on October 1, 2004, at 5:57:30

In reply to Yawning Therapist, posted by AUGUSTINA on September 26, 2004, at 13:03:37

I do not like it. See Ultra boundaries about a yawn. Terrics


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