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my therapist seems to have lost focus

Posted by Diane J on August 10, 2004, at 23:03:32

My therapist is a wonderful woman who has helped me a great deal. We've worked together for several years, and of course by now we know a lot about each other. But during our last three appointments she has talked a lot about herself and things unrelated to therapy. I don't mind a little bit of this sort of thing, because I am very fond of her and what she tells me is interesting, and usually she notices right away that the conversation has strayed and she will change course back to business. I really don't want to say anything about it, but it strikes me that there could be something going on here that I can't see. Do you think I should say something to her, or just see if she goes back to being normal? Do you think this is a signal that it's time to cut back on sessions?

 

Re: my therapist seems to have lost focus

Posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 10, 2004, at 23:42:28

In reply to my therapist seems to have lost focus, posted by Diane J on August 10, 2004, at 23:03:32

Yes, I would bring this up to her. Maybe she is having things from her own life leak into to her working environment? It sounds to me that she has lost the focus. I hope this is temporary.

 

Re: my therapist seems to have lost focus Diane J

Posted by Dinah on August 11, 2004, at 1:23:36

In reply to my therapist seems to have lost focus, posted by Diane J on August 10, 2004, at 23:03:32

Hmmm... I suppose the healthy thing to do is to bring it up directly. But I'm not sure I would do that personally. I think I'd be more likely to guide the discussion back where I wanted it. And maybe ask if everything was ok with him.

I'm not saying it's a good thing that I'm not generally direct about things like that. It's not a social relationship, and being direct about anything in therapy is a good thing. I just have trouble doing it with certain issues. Maybe it's because my therapist is generally good at picking up indirect signals in those areas...

 

Re: my therapist seems to have lost focus

Posted by lookdownfish on August 11, 2004, at 7:07:32

In reply to my therapist seems to have lost focus, posted by Diane J on August 10, 2004, at 23:03:32

I would definitely advise you to bring it up directly. But in practice I might not be so direct and would probably do something else to bring it to her attention. Possibly by talking about a dream that portrays the situation. But you might have to be more direct. Maybe she's being a bit complacent as you've been together so long. I did read something once that when therapists get bored it means the client is avoiding a crucial issue and skirting around it. I don't mean to offend you or suggest you've been boring her, but just thought I'd mention it.

 

Re: my therapist seems to have lost focus lookdownfish

Posted by gardenergirl on August 11, 2004, at 7:32:40

In reply to Re: my therapist seems to have lost focus, posted by lookdownfish on August 11, 2004, at 7:07:32

I also am not saying that the T is bored. But ldf, I heard the same thing from my T. We were talking about how a couple of times I thought he looked bored, and he gave me this theory. Interesting idea. I don't remember if anything came out of it, though. :)

Take care,
gg


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