Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 333286

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Report after 1st session, for Pfinstegg

Posted by Racer on April 6, 2004, at 10:36:37

You know, I'm ashamed to admit some of what's going on with me, so this is an abbreviated account of my reactions. While I am sorry if anyone is offended by that, I'm also proud of myself for realizing that I have boundaries about this and protecting them.

Overall, I'm hopeful again. The session did not feel adversarial to me, which it had been feeling with the last therapist (pretty much from the first.) She brought up going into my pdoc appointment with me, asking if that would help, and I said I'd be more comfortable with a coaching session on how to talk to him or maybe having her come along, but that anything like that had to wait until we'd built up a therapeutic relationship and some trust. She didn't seem offended, more like "duh! I forgot to mention that part!" It's too early to tell what will happen, but she didn't hit on either of my two trigger points: being too nice, too "awww, honey, it's so hard for you, you poor thing" which I distrust strongly; nor the "well, and what are you planning to do about it because it's all up to you?" I already put enough pressure on myself, that when someone starts in on that with me, it's pretty devastating for me. And the sympathetic stuff just makes me feel more depressed. So, she seems to be that happy medium, and she did say something about me seeming motivated to work, and she is willing to see me twice a week for now -- which is a huge big deal for me. This has been going on for far too long with no relief, and I'm more than ready to get somewhere with it. Being seen more often, so that I can really start working on it, really makes me feel better.

So, I'm cautiously optimistic about this one. Which, since I don't have anything in the way of choice in the matter, really makes a difference.

And thanks for asking, Pfinstegg -- it's nice to feel that someone cares.

 

Re: Report after 1st session, for Pfinstegg Racer

Posted by terrics on April 6, 2004, at 11:50:02

In reply to Report after 1st session, for Pfinstegg, posted by Racer on April 6, 2004, at 10:36:37

Racer, You sound positive and I am really glad for you. The few things you said about your new therapist sound good too. Hope it works out! terrics

 

Re: Report after 1st session, :-)

Posted by Fallen4myT on April 6, 2004, at 12:46:03

In reply to Report after 1st session, for Pfinstegg, posted by Racer on April 6, 2004, at 10:36:37

cautiously optimistic IS GOOD....And I care too...Been waiting for you to post on it and was glad to see this. If you were wayyy optimistic I would see that as a red flag so to me..this is great :-)

HUGS

 

Re: Report after 1st session, for Pfinstegg Racer

Posted by noa on April 6, 2004, at 13:02:32

In reply to Report after 1st session, for Pfinstegg, posted by Racer on April 6, 2004, at 10:36:37

Racer, this sounds pretty good so far. I understand about needing the happy medium between too sweet and too harsh. Some respectful understanding and a willingness to listen sounds good to me.

Good luck.

 

Re: Report after 1st session, for Pfinstegg Racer

Posted by fallsfall on April 6, 2004, at 14:40:03

In reply to Report after 1st session, for Pfinstegg, posted by Racer on April 6, 2004, at 10:36:37

That sounds pretty good! I'm glad that she asked about your preference in contacting your pdoc - and gave you some choices. Hopefully that will mean that your "style" does matter to her.

Hope the next one is good, too!

 

Re: Report after 1st session, for Pfinstegg

Posted by gardenergirl on April 6, 2004, at 22:09:22

In reply to Re: Report after 1st session, for Pfinstegg Racer, posted by fallsfall on April 6, 2004, at 14:40:03

I'm glad that things went well so far. Here's hoping it continues.

gg

 

Re: Report after 1st session, for Pfinstegg

Posted by mair on April 7, 2004, at 8:03:30

In reply to Report after 1st session, for Pfinstegg, posted by Racer on April 6, 2004, at 10:36:37

Racer, you've had such awful experiences lately, it's really understandable that you're guarded. Just remember, that it can take a long time for you to feel any sense of a commitment to a therapist, or for that matter, before you might feel that this is a good therapist for you. Also, really try not to judge her or the therapy itself on a session by session basis. My progress has been so slow and laboring; it can only be evaluated over a lenghty continuum.

Sorry for spouting off what you already know, but maybe it helps to be reminded.

I'm so glad you're getting some help.

Mair

 

Re: Report after 1st session Racer

Posted by Pfinstegg on April 9, 2004, at 20:01:46

In reply to Report after 1st session, for Pfinstegg, posted by Racer on April 6, 2004, at 10:36:37

Hi Racer! I've been away at a conference in Atlanta for three days, and so just saw your post this evening. I'm so glad to hear that she seemed as though she might be someone you can really work with- and that you'll be going twice a week. I go twice, and find it helps kind of to keep things open and alive. I know forming these relationships takes a lot of time, and it's hard to be sure, but I did like the sound of the beginning! I hope you'll keep on letting us know how it goes.


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