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Re: Pick and Choose

Posted by gardenergirl on August 2, 2004, at 6:09:55

In reply to Re: Pick and Choose gardenergirl, posted by fires on August 2, 2004, at 0:13:46

Counter-intuitive yes, but you'll get used to it eventually.
gg

 

Re: Pick and Choose gardenergirl

Posted by fires on August 2, 2004, at 10:38:46

In reply to Re: Pick and Choose, posted by gardenergirl on August 2, 2004, at 6:09:55

> Counter-intuitive yes, but you'll get used to it eventually.
>

Anything I don't use often enough tends to find a way out of my memory. ;)

 

Re: Hi there fires fires

Posted by AuntieMel on August 2, 2004, at 10:48:07

In reply to Re: Pick and Choose gardenergirl, posted by fires on August 2, 2004, at 10:38:46

I'm back from my weekend of unavailabity.

Maybe we should continue this on a separate thread?

And (she says teasingly) isn't it a wee bit egotistical to think you were the troll referred to? You go off to a bad start with some people here, but at least several of us (so far) know we can discuss things with you quite pleasantly.

I believe Dinah was much busier elsewhere.....

Good to see ya.

 

I have requested before that you do not post to me (nm) fires

Posted by Aphrodite on August 2, 2004, at 13:02:11

In reply to Re: Why I came back Aphrodite, posted by fires on August 1, 2004, at 20:13:16

 

Re: I have requested... Aphrodite

Posted by B2chica on August 2, 2004, at 13:04:56

In reply to I have requested before that you do not post to me (nm) fires, posted by Aphrodite on August 2, 2004, at 13:02:11

Remember, i am here Aphrodite.
B2c.

 

Re: Is it safe to return?

Posted by Aphrodite on August 2, 2004, at 13:13:15

In reply to Is it safe to return?, posted by Aphrodite on August 1, 2004, at 6:17:29

Answering my own question . . .

Guess not.

 

Thank you, friend. :) (nm) B2chica

Posted by Aphrodite on August 2, 2004, at 13:13:58

In reply to Re: I have requested... Aphrodite, posted by B2chica on August 2, 2004, at 13:04:56

 

Re: I have requested...

Posted by partlycloudy on August 2, 2004, at 14:13:51

In reply to Re: I have requested... Aphrodite, posted by B2chica on August 2, 2004, at 13:04:56

I'm here, too, Aphrodite.

 

Re: Is it safe to return?

Posted by Shadowplayers721 on August 2, 2004, at 16:18:30

In reply to Is it safe to return?, posted by Aphrodite on August 1, 2004, at 6:17:29

Welcome back. It's sounds like you took care of yourself.

 

Welcome back (nm) Aphrodite

Posted by Poet on August 2, 2004, at 18:19:10

In reply to Is it safe to return?, posted by Aphrodite on August 1, 2004, at 6:17:29

 

Why do you say that?

Posted by Jai Narayan on August 2, 2004, at 22:23:39

In reply to Re: Is it safe to return?, posted by Aphrodite on August 2, 2004, at 13:13:15

Fires is not here anymore.
why can't you come back?
I am so confused.

 

Re: Why do you say that? Jai Narayan

Posted by fires on August 3, 2004, at 0:01:57

In reply to Why do you say that?, posted by Jai Narayan on August 2, 2004, at 22:23:39

> Fires is not here anymore.
> why can't you come back?
> I am so confused.
>

What do I have to do with this scenario, if you don't mind my asking?

 

Re: Why do you say that? fires

Posted by AuntieMel on August 3, 2004, at 8:51:26

In reply to Re: Why do you say that? Jai Narayan, posted by fires on August 3, 2004, at 0:01:57

Hay there fires.

It's long and complicated, but there are some here that have been offended by some of what you posted.

If you would like to discuss it with me, why don't you start another thread and I'll try to explain.

Just remember that in my explaining, I will not be attacking you. I'm explaining as a friend.

Okie dokey?

 

Re: One more thing fires....

Posted by AuntieMel on August 3, 2004, at 8:53:52

In reply to Re: Why do you say that? fires, posted by AuntieMel on August 3, 2004, at 8:51:26

I noticed you are posting at late hours. I need my beauty sleep. Desperately.

 

Re: Fires - sorry to be a pest, but.... fires

Posted by AuntieMel on August 3, 2004, at 14:57:23

In reply to Re: Why do you say that? Jai Narayan, posted by fires on August 3, 2004, at 0:01:57

FYI - in case you don't know all the babble rules - posting to someone that requested that you don't is a blocking offense around here.

Now, about that separate thread? You pick a topic.

 

Re: Fires - sorry to be a pest, but.... AuntieMel

Posted by fires on August 3, 2004, at 15:05:15

In reply to Re: Fires - sorry to be a pest, but.... fires, posted by AuntieMel on August 3, 2004, at 14:57:23

> FYI - in case you don't know all the babble rules - posting to someone that requested that you don't is a blocking offense around here.
>
> Now, about that separate thread? You pick a topic.

Re: Babble rules. How is one to remember who said that they can't reply to them? With all the subject line changes and presumed name changes: Who's on first?

Don't have time for new thread now.

bye

 

Re: Fires I'll start one below (nm) fires

Posted by AuntieMel on August 3, 2004, at 16:13:47

In reply to Re: Fires - sorry to be a pest, but.... AuntieMel, posted by fires on August 3, 2004, at 15:05:15

 

Re: blocked for week fires

Posted by Dr. Bob on August 3, 2004, at 17:52:07

In reply to Re: Why I came back Aphrodite, posted by fires on August 1, 2004, at 20:13:16

> What trolls? I belieived I was falsely accused of being one.

Please don't post to someone who asks you not to:

http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040614/msgs/358406.html

I've asked you before to be civil, so now I'm going to block you from posting for a week.

> How is one to remember who said that they can't reply to them?

Write it down? If you have any other questions or comments about this or about posting policies in general, please see the FAQ:

http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#harassed

or email me, or redirect a follow-up to Psycho-Babble Administration after your block is over.

Thanks,

Bob

 

Re: amazingly strong!

Posted by JenStar on August 4, 2004, at 2:09:55

In reply to amazingly strong!, posted by B2chica on August 1, 2004, at 17:51:33

I agree with you in some ways - the web is a great place to receive mutual support and affection. There ARE a lot of interesting and supportive people here!

But I also think that boards like babble (and others) can encourage a 'group mentality' to arise, a shared 'we suffer so, and we can't really be fixed' mentality that encourages people not to take charge of their lives and make better decisions.

People write about bad decisions and difficult problems, are are met with understanding. Sometimes, too MUCH understanding! It's easy to say soothing words, not so easy to offer constructive criticism, and I think we sometimes offer each other a 'everything is OK, do what you want' attitude instead of offering real-life advice on how to really fix issues.

Sometimes that is all a person wants -- some soothing -- and then fully intends to go fix problems on their own after getting some TLC.

But from what I read here, the problems are often chronic in nature, and the behaviors repeat over and over again. sometimes I think it's not so healthy to read about this too much, because it makes some of the bad decisions seem OK -- and I don't want that.

There is also the chronic undertone of ultra-reliance on therapists that I just think is unhealthy. (Of course, the answer to me would be: If it's unhealthy for you, then stay away!)


I can fully understand how some therapists would read this board and advise certain people to stay away and find other places to get support.

Anyway, I know that was a mouthful. I DO like Babble...I just need to set limits for myself on how much I read & participate.

Good luck to all!
JenStar

 

Re: amazingly strong!

Posted by vwoolf on August 4, 2004, at 8:58:14

In reply to Re: amazingly strong!, posted by JenStar on August 4, 2004, at 2:09:55

I find your message hurtful.

 

Re: amazingly strong!

Posted by Susan47 on August 4, 2004, at 9:54:15

In reply to Re: amazingly strong!, posted by JenStar on August 4, 2004, at 2:09:55

vwoolf, try not to let yourself be hurt by JenStar's message. From her point of view, that's the way things are. Your view might be completely different because you're coming from a different place right now.

 

Re: amazingly strong! JenStar

Posted by Susan47 on August 4, 2004, at 9:56:51

In reply to Re: amazingly strong!, posted by JenStar on August 4, 2004, at 2:09:55

I'm glad you spoke your mind at the top of this board today. I was feeling like I wanted to say the same things to J, but I was afraid of turning her away.
In addition, I realized last night that I have been way to good to my therapist, I've been giving him too much credit, there's a feeling of support for the therapist on the board that I might have to fight against in order to see things really clearly. Therapists really do have the edge.

 

Re: amazingly strong! Susan47

Posted by Dinah on August 4, 2004, at 11:38:25

In reply to Re: amazingly strong! JenStar, posted by Susan47 on August 4, 2004, at 9:56:51

I think you might mis-take the position towards therapists on this board. Therapist bashing is a prime hobby - our own mainly I admit.

What you might be seeing is a reluctance on most of our parts to interfere in a therapeutic relationship unless it appears grossly abusive. Because after all, this is an internet bulletin board, we don't have the full story. I don't think we're shy about suggesting that people bring concerns to discuss with their own therapist or to obtain a consultation with a third party. But we may be reluctant to engage in therapy-interfering behaviors unless the therapist is clearly violating professional ethics, just as we would probably be reluctant to engage in marriage-interfering behaviors unless there was abuse involved.

My therapist has been extremely annoyed with me in the past, not for discussing my therapy with others, but for allowing others who have no familiarity with how long term therapy works to shake my trust in him or the process without discussing it with him. Of course, I generally do discuss it with him, even if it takes a while. I've also had one outright consultation, and several adjunct therapies where my therapy was discussed. Most outside "authorities" thought we had a very good and healthy therapeutic relationship. One didn't, but as I didn't think much of his technique in general, that didn't surprise me overmuch.

My therapist has been criticized, and I've agreed with the criticism sometimes, and other times not.

I don't think therapists get a free ride here. We're generally informed consumers who demand a lot from our therapists and know when they're falling short.

 

FOR FIRES

Posted by AuntieMel on August 4, 2004, at 12:38:29

In reply to Re: Fires - sorry to be a pest, but.... AuntieMel, posted by fires on August 3, 2004, at 15:05:15

I hope you are still reading.

You can contact me if you want to

AuntieMel
at
gmail
dotcom

 

Re: amazingly strong! JenStar

Posted by pinkeye on August 4, 2004, at 13:06:07

In reply to Re: amazingly strong!, posted by JenStar on August 4, 2004, at 2:09:55

I agree with JenStar. Sometimes, this board tries to be too nice to people. It is good most of the times to help heal. But sometimes, it makes us look the other way to reality.
Posting very hurting messages should not be encouraged, but mild pointing to reality atleast should be encouraged.
Especially with chronic problems that is obviously the patient's mistake, we still try to be very supportive instead of pointing out that the person is obviously very wrong. And sometimes when you try to point out, people feel put down instead of taking it in a right spirit.


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