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Re: what we see and feel

Posted by Dr. Bob on April 28, 2004, at 21:59:27

In reply to Re: what we see and feel Dr. Bob, posted by Fallen4MyT on April 27, 2004, at 22:02:20

> [A] If say 8 different people posted they feel ignored in here and I agreed ..then someone posted that is not the case to ME that poster is the uncivil one...we ARE feeling ignored


> Now why would ... my saying the same from a different angle its uncivil for me and NOT as it was/is a disagreement? This is odd

I assume this is an example of what you're referring to as the same from a different angle:

> [B] I could name about 7 people's screen names ... who never miss a reply to one another's posts ... yet they miss or ignore a post STARTED by another poster

I think I see what you mean, A is about people feeling ignored by others, and B is about people doing the ignoring.

But the "different angle" makes it a civility issue. A is an I-statement, "I feel ignored", and is about your feelings. B is a they-statement, "they ignore others", and is about the behavior of other people -- and so could lead other people to feel accused of that behavior.

Does that make any sense?





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