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Re: therapist saying 'more effective' to go elsewhere

Posted by alexandra_k on December 18, 2018, at 17:26:02

In reply to Re: therapist saying 'more effective' to go elsewhere broken123, posted by baseball55 on December 17, 2018, at 17:30:55

some more thoughts...

it might be helpful to get some indepenent advice to help mediate a fair price for the work that was done.

that is between you and her daughter, though, and not between you and the therapist.

some therapists are forever agnostic about what their client / patient says about the way things are in the world. whether it be about things that happened in the past or the way things are with others or whatever.

other therapists show emotional support by agreeing with the client / patients assessment of the way things are in the world.

a former therapist would not worry about whether or not you were correct in your assessment of 'fair' price, for example, or 'shoddy' work. a later therapist would be more likely to accept your interpretation as the 'right' one.

the later line can lead to conflict.

the former line can be... the sort of position that a mother would take when her kids are arguing over... an exchange of toys, or the like...

did your therapist say specifcially she was her daughter -- or did you work out the nature of their relationship yourself? presumably you could have seen a different person for the work you contracted to her daughter -- finding someone to fix up that work is easier than finding someone to fix up the present therapy work?

it seems to me that she asked for things to be kept separate (but did show relaxed boundaries in referring you to her in the first place). but then you accepted those relaxed boundaries by pursuing her for the contract... initially offering her a price that you yourself didn't believe was fair... getting upset... feeling maybe the upset wasn't justified... paying an excess (to justify feeling upset?)...

this all seems like something that may be worth processing...

and some kind of sibling rivaly. you don't know about the nature of their relationship. some professionals have greater intimacy with their patients / clients than with their people in their own / home life...

i don't know.

i think if i was you i would maybe try and work things out with her.

i don't think she has said that she isn't willing to work with you, anymore. but you need to demonstrate some committment to keeping the relationship.

perhaps...

just some more thoughts...

 

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