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I still love my therapist

Posted by widget on June 25, 2010, at 22:53:49

I have been in therapy for 6 years. After about 1 1/2 years, I fell in love with him. He calls it tranference. I call it love. Recently, before a long vacation, he told me that my "transference" was getting in the way of therapy and then he was gone--for 3 weeks. I was miserable.

When he returned, I told him exactly how awful I felt and did feel. He was, characteristically, in-tune, empathetic, seriously sad because of my misery. He said that "like attracts like" and what I most liked in him (after asking) was what he most liked in me. OK. He also said I was his favorite patient (yes, he did). BUT, he couldn't
"go there" to love. He could say is find you "lovable" buy not "I love you". He told me he had always told me about his "boundaries" ethically and he had the personally, also.

This is so understandable. He really loves his wife. He has a family with her. ok. I love my husband and have a child with him. And, yet, I love him. I must say, though, recently, I have felt I could not actually live with him. Why? He is on a different wave length than I. He is unmaterialistic to a degree I admire but cannot equal. That would be quite a source of frustration for me.

However, no one says my name like he does. He has the best voice ever. And, he knows me unlilke anyone including my nearest and dearest. After a very traditional, Catholic upbringing, I find his constant acceptance of me incredibly alluring despite myself. I guess that's just the way it is.

What do I expect? Nothing more than I have but how can I ever part from him? Widget




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