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Re: therapy issues again

Posted by fleeting flutterby on August 11, 2009, at 10:05:54

In reply to Re: therapy issues again fleeting flutterby, posted by deerock on August 10, 2009, at 15:13:09

> how did you figure out you were with the wrong therapist?
>
> and thanks for your respond btw :) i appreciate it.

----flutterby: You are welcome. :o)

As to how I figured out that that T. was wrong for me....... it was a long process..... and one that, keep in mind, is quite individual.(IMO)
Now-- even though some of this may be what you're experiencing, that doens't mean your T. is wrong for you. My feelings of anger grew and grew, I found myself expressing in my head over and over how much I hated him.(the therapist) My self-esteem was going even lower than it already was, after some time in therapy. I felt I was less able to cope with things than I could before I started seeing him and yet I wasn't given any coping strategies - like I am now with this current therapist. I was just encouraged to talk about my feelings and the past but wasn't given coping skills and ways to change my old disruptive thinking modes. I felt confused and lost most of the time. I now realize I was needing to learn new ways of thinking(other than "everyone/thing is against me") and functional coping skills(other than just fleeing every time I felt nervous). I'm slowly learning things now and can notice the difference.... not to say I don't have some setbacks *sigh*... like at the moment I've been struggling horribly.... but I think some of my "flashbacks" don't disruptive my life as long of a duration as they used to.... some anyway..... I still am way far from where I'd like to be but I can finally feel some progress.

anyway-- I feel for your frustrations. it's so so hard to know what is best for ourselves sometimes.... when we have been in such mental chaos for so long.... it's very difficult.
I think, if you can, a look deep inside your "head" might be of some help, asking yourself-- "Is this really helping me", "am I getting out of this things I will look back on in 5 years and be thankful for, such things that will make my life better?"

and you can always keep posting here, we're here and will help/support whenever we can.

best to you,
flutterby-mandy

 

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