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no hug

Posted by sunnydays on August 6, 2009, at 17:46:54


I've been wanting a hug from my therapist for so long. I finally asked today. I was in a really scary car accident on Monday and was really wanting to feel comforted today. I asked him for a hug towards the end of session. We had been talking about how I feel like it's bad to say what I want out loud. He said that that was something he wouldn't do, that he guessed that was one way he couldn't be there for me, but that it had nothing to do with me and it was about what he believed about how to be a therapist.

I was ok for a minute, then my lip started quivering, I felt really young, and it felt like my world was falling apart and I started crying. After I calmed down a little, he said it was time to stop in a few minutes even though he knew this was a really hard place to stop. He said he really wanted me to hear that it wasn't about me. He said he tries to hold me with his words and his thoughts.

I know I'm completely mired in transference, and I feel absolutely upside down in terms of my whole life since the accident. But I just wanted to be comforted.

I'm sad.





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