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Re: Thinking of you. Are you OK? blahblahblah

Posted by Dinah on June 1, 2009, at 7:56:05

In reply to Re: Thinking of you. Are you OK?, posted by blahblahblah on June 1, 2009, at 1:32:20

I wouldn't say the twelve were all about her.

I'd say they were about your reactions to your relationship with her. I don't know that that's all bad, since so much of ourselves seems to play itself out in our relationships with our therapists. That's one of the points of therapy, in some therapies.

Whether it would be helpful in your therapy, I don't know. Is she the sort of therapist that is familiar with using the therapeutic relationship in her work? Do these issues play out elsewhere in your life? Not necessarily as overtly as they do in therapy. Therapy tends to magnify these things, which allows us to work on them and improve our functioning outside therapy in the process.

I recognize that sometimes it really is all about them, but often it's about both us and them. Do you think it likely that she will have a breakdown? Has she given any indication that that may be likely? Has she had previous breakdowns?

Some of the most helpful things to me in therapy is learning to know and accept who I am, and know and accept who he is, and to know where I stop and he starts. In other words, sometimes I still agonize over something that happens in therapy, and worry that he'll be thinking or feeling any number of things about it. Only to find out that he hadn't been thinking about it at all. That's not very pleasant of course. But it often helps me stop in the middle of worrying about things, and recognize that unpalatable fact. I've found that helpful in many areas of my life. Not pleasant, but helpful.

 

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