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Re: If I have to learn another lesson about boundaries Partlycloudy

Posted by Little Soul on January 20, 2009, at 9:04:46

In reply to If I have to learn another lesson about boundaries, posted by Partlycloudy on January 13, 2009, at 12:53:49

Hey PC, I can feel your struggle all the way through the "line". I get it - the thing about learning all over again at this age after being, until recently, a successful, confident, professional woman. My T keeps on setting boundaries for me, so she says, "I'll learn what healthy boundaries look like"....grumble, grumble.

And then, there it goes, hold on, I can feel it coming up like a hot-flash, the gremlin creeping up on my shoulder shouting things like, "loser, fake, idiot" and other judgemental things, much more descriptive than I can say here. I just want to sit down and cry - and usually do.

I don't know how it is for you, but for me I go through this stuff in cycles. I know, everyone says it will pass and it does, but when you're in it, you're in it, plain and simple. Sometimes what I do to get out of it, is to imagine myself taking a stand like a boxer, hands up with gloves on and everything (yeah, I know...what a sight)! Then I imigine saying to that gremlin, "come on, come 'ere, I dare ya to take over my mind" in full pose quite puffed up. And for a bit that seems to do it.

But yeah, I despise having to learn this stuff all over again too! Maybe I never really got it and that's why it hurts so much now - donno. All I can say is that I'm there for ya. You were among the first people to reach out to me when I was a newbie a few weeks ago and that meant a lot to me! ((((((((((((PC))))))))))))

You're in my thoughts.
LS


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