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Re: We both had our eyes at one point

Posted by onceupon on September 6, 2008, at 12:30:49

In reply to We both had our eyes at one point, posted by Poet on September 5, 2008, at 17:02:32

> I peeked and hers were shut. This was after she said can we talk about "sex." I must have looked horrified as she said let's both close our eyes.

Wow - this sounds like a very powerful way to have this conversation (and safe, too).

> She then suggested that I talk to him about my sensory defensiveness and how my feelings on being touched effect my sexual desire. I can try to do that.

This definitely sounds like an important conversation.

> T's other concern is that when I go to my parents house (they've gotten into a Friday lunch pattern with me) and my abuser lives below them. I pray he's not home, but today he was and just seeing him gets to me. T wants me to tell my parents we have to meet at the restaurant, which sometimes I do, but my mother always wants to know why. Even if I got mad and blurted out why she would never believe her baby boy could do something so horrible.

Oh my. I'm so sorry you're in this situation. Is the restaurant more convenient for you in any way? Is there some other excuse you can give?

> Thank you everyone for your ideas and support. It's wonderful to have a place where people get the horrors of CSA. If T continues to just hint and not say it outloud I may be able to slowly build up to saying the bad stuff outloud. Or at least Journal it and let her read it again.

I'm impressed by your courage. It helps if it's a slow build-up, doesn't it? I hope you continue to post about your progress. It sounds like you've made a huge jump ahead. Hope you can feel good about that for yourself.





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