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Re: My husband is in therapy lemonaide

Posted by Tamar on September 5, 2008, at 9:19:12

In reply to Re: My husband is in therapy, posted by lemonaide on September 5, 2008, at 0:08:39

> Wow Tamar, I had no idea things got this bad between you. It does say something that he is getting therapy, mine won't do that yet. But sometimes it is too late, but only time will tell. Just because he is going to therapy, doesn't mean he will willing to changes his behavior. (or who knows how long it will take)

I think I was probably in denial for a long time too. And to some extent I believed him when he said it was all my fault. And of course he's not nasty every minute of every day, and when he's nice he's lovely. He can be very supportive and sweet when he's not screaming at me. So it's confusing.

> Is there such thing as a happy marriage anywhere? I am beginning to think it is a myth and a con to make us want the fantasy of being happily married.

Maybe you're right! I know that all marriages have problems. But I did hope that happiness would emerge in between the problems! I suppose, though, that the problems would have to be resolved for the happiness to emerge, and if one partner denies there's a problem it's a bit tricky to resolve things, eh?

> Tamar, please take care of yourself and don't rush into this with him. Baby steps okay. ((((Tamar)))))
>

Thanks so much, Lemonaide. Yeah, rushing would probably be foolish. I've been so desperate to escape for such a long time that I didn't realise how p*ssed off I am about things. I need to be calmer to make sensible decisions. Baby steps, then.


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