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Re: Thanks for everyone's input annierose

Posted by muffled on January 8, 2008, at 21:38:29

In reply to Re: Thanks for everyone's input muffled, posted by annierose on January 8, 2008, at 20:41:33

> I'm not feeling as edgy - more sad - not sure if that is progress.

*well extreeme anything sucks. So if its less uncomfortable...then I guess its progress...

> I have been able to explore this with my therapist. We have been working very hard on our style of communicating with each other.

*so..its going OK w/T mostly..the "T relationship"(ugh!) is good?

> Plus my sister has decided she wants nothing to do with any of her siblings (and that includes me) even though I was once the only person she would confide in.

*thats gotta hurt :-( I am sorry. I have 3 sisters, and sometimes, I guess its like with teens, sometimes you just have to let them know you care and are there for them, but thats about all you can do. Its hard to see someone you care about hurting. But as my T says, we need to come *alongside* them in their pain, rhather than try and take the pain onto ourselves or become too enmeshed in it, cuz then its hard to be helpful cuz we hurting too much then ourselves. If that makes any sense! I tend to muddle stuff up.

> In therapy today, my t reminded me that she was my "friend" (meaning - in my camp) and that I need to trust her and trust her feelings towards me are positive. Instead, I work really hard to examine everything she says to make sure every context is 100% perfect. If one word could be taken differently, then I go with that meaning. Yep, that sounds right.

* LOL! Well if it helps any you are NOT the only one. My T actually got almost angry w/me (in a joking sort of way)one time. She told me something about how she felt about me, then proceeded to lecture me about twisting her words around! She was VERY clear about what she said!!!! And she did NOT want me to walk away and change it in my head....as I am wont to do. I guess at some point, we build enuf trust, that we DO finally actually beleive that on some level they DO truly care aboput us and have out best interests at heart. But when you been burned B4, its takes time to build that trust.

> Aren't you glad you asked?

* Yup! I am!
I asked cuz I care. I read your posts Annierose and I like them.
So yes indeedy I am glad I asked.
I hope things can get a little easier for you soon as time goes by. In the meantime...try your best not to be twisting words like I do!!!
Take good care,
Muffled

 

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