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2 questions--hope thats ok!!

Posted by ladybugsmom on January 5, 2008, at 10:50:57

First, I want to thank everyone who answered my introduction and my first question. You made me feel very welcome!

I really like this board alot! I think that the journey thru therapy is a really hard road but it is very rewarding. It is very comforting to be able to come here and read that so many other people have the very same thoughts that I do and that I am not losing my mind!

My questions are:
1. Do any of you struggle with allowing grey areas into your life? I am a very black and white type of a person. I either trust you with everything or with nothing. I either love you or I hate you. I suppose the problem with that is that I shut alot of people out of my life and only have 1 or 2 really incredible friends that I truly trust. My T is trying to show me that you can trust people in levels and I am using him as my test. So he better not mess it up because if he does it will prove my point that there is no room for grey areas. It seems to create to much chaos. Things are either right or wrong to me. And that means I have to make really tough decisions sometimes. But that is how life is. My T thinks that I hold my boundaries too stringent and wont let people in. Which is why he recommended coming here--to try to start letting people in. And to start owning my abuse--because I hold it at arms length I suppose. So how do you let grey areas in and still keep yourself safe?

2. Do any of you feel a sense of security in any area of your life? My T asked me to make a list of what I wanted most out of life and my number 1 thing was that I wanted to feel secure in one area in my life. Just one. That does not seem like too much to ask for you would think. But it seems hard to feel. My husband is wonderful and he tries. But I only feel secure about 50% of the time. He says he would never go away. He will love me for always. And I want to believe him. But I have HUGE abandonment issues. And that affects that I think!





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