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Re: Reentry Daisym

Posted by lovelorn on January 3, 2008, at 18:01:02

In reply to Reentry, posted by Daisym on January 2, 2008, at 21:43:20

>the idea that you might be making choices that limit your happiness rang true. Is therapy one of those choices?

I am thinking the same thing at times, Daisym. Over the holidays, I was talking with my ex-H and talked to him of some ambivalence I've been having about doing therapy. After over a year, it has helped me, and he said, yes, but it makes you down. And I realized it does do that, when in between sessions, I may be feeling better and more positive.

I am going to give it another six months and see if the downs of therapy don't improve.

>I should just get over all this and look forward, not backwards." He wanted to know if we couldn't do both - set goals for the future as we deal with the past. Why is that so hard for me?

I have been telling myself the same thing for the last month or two. But it always seems as soon as you get in the room, back you go. lol. For me it seems so hard sometimes because I think part of me wants some magical 'cure' of the past, that with enough talking about it, somehow it will be all fixed like the damage will have been completely undone. Makes me think of my T saying that healing implies to me as if it never happened. We cannot make it like it never happened and that we would be different people because it didn't happen, because it did.

Anyway future, yes. My T and I are at the same place of speaking about future goals and moving forward. Will be interesting to see how that develops.


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