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Re: Loss of a sense of self Sigismund

Posted by Dinah on January 2, 2008, at 23:48:55

In reply to Loss of a sense of self Dinah, posted by Sigismund on January 2, 2008, at 23:20:55

So of course I had to look up Rimbaud to see who he was. :) And while I clearly couldn't google a firm grasp of his essence, he sounds like a man who held on firmly to his personality, rather than destroying it. And certainly he had to have been a man of very firmly held and ferociously defended values? Perhaps not traditional values, but values nevertheless.

But maybe I'm not getting the point. I'm sadly mundane, and intellectual thoughts often fly by me.

I think maybe what you describe in your family is more not being allowed to develop your own values. Or not that exactly, since you say you learned the value of defending others? Hmmm.....

In the end, don't values come from the very deepest core of ourselves? Not rules, or beliefs even, but values? Isn't that why people react so strongly to attacks on those values? Maybe I'm not saying that right.

And of course values can evolve. I don't like to say change, because I'm not sure people change their values as they might their beliefs. But surely they evolve as we grow and learn? While remaining the core of who we are, since everything we are and do surely emanates from our core set of values?

Not the ones we're supposed to have, but the ones we really do have.

But maybe I'm confused. I'm often confused.

By the way, is sublimating your desire to mourn the best course of action for you? Perhaps I overvalue mourning.

 

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