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Re: Sorting out my session today --long reply gardenergirl

Posted by annierose on November 13, 2007, at 16:21:09

In reply to Re: Sorting out my session today --long reply annierose, posted by gardenergirl on November 13, 2007, at 11:10:41

Thank you so much for the clinical explanations - it was very helpful understanding the id, ego, and superego. Psychology 101 was a long time ago.

Funny about "boosts" vs "boasts" --- I wrote boasts this morning before I had my cup of coffee but I love the Freudian slip.

>>That's interesting. You're telling her that you need more; that you're not feeling you're getting what you want/need from her, and she feels criticized. Isn't the apparent/perceived discrepancy as you experience it the issue? <<

Yes, this is an on-going issue between my therapist and myself. And as much as want to say "it's her", I know it's mostly MY issue. I'm not saying she doesn't have a part in my reaction, but I know from my husband and children I say things that sound critical even though I don't think I am talking in that way. If that makes sense? In other words, what she is saying rings true to a point but it's not a perfect fit ... she's missing a component to the issue and I think Daisy is closer with an attachment issue vs. self esteem.

>>Whereas someone who's got a strong, confident, balanced ego (or back to eastern philosophy, one who has let go of the ego) doesn't need to call attention to appearance, accomplishments big and small, etc. <<<

I feel like my ego is more balanced as in this description. I don't think I necessarily call attention to my appearance or accomplishments. Of course, for the "gala" I did get dressed up - appropriately so. However, I do take some care in getting dressed - I want to look "nice" for work but no one would say I'm a clothes horse. You met me - how long did I take to get ready in the mornings ... 10 minutes top?

One more clincial question for you. I think my t was touching on what Daisy brought up about attachment, but dismissed it when she said something like, "A young child thinks the world is glorious. I think you had the feeling for a short while with your mother. She was good enough ... maybe until age 2. Then something happened to her. But you had to know that feeling of being special at one time or else you could not be the accomplished person you are today." I am not sure if I agree with that statement. I think a person can rise above their circumstances given enough encouragment from others (for me it was teachers and my grandmother).

By the way, I hold you in my thoughts. How are you doing? Are you okay? Are you happy with your decision or are you still processing it?

 

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