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Re: uncharted waters with the new T... twinleaf

Posted by RealMe on October 20, 2007, at 22:52:05

In reply to Re: uncharted waters with the new T... RealMe, posted by twinleaf on October 20, 2007, at 17:45:02

Yes I think my T is thinking the same thing about the couch. He has not brought it up lately, but he asked how it felt to have more of an emotional connection with him, and I said it did not feel good. I know he was surprised and asked about it. I said it was because he is my therapist and not someone in my everyday life, and so I know it is somewhat artificial in that he is just doing his job. Then I said I really liked him, and he asked me if I thought he liked me. He has done this before, and I said yes, and he shook his head yes that he does.

He is on to me when I get angry with him now too. He knows it means I have something I want to say and am afraid to say it. I did it again on Friday but I did tell him what was on my mind, and he commented on that at the end. This is when he says the most, at the end of the session to help me pull it back together. When I told him his saying nothing left me feeling so alone, he has now gone back to doing this again. He did not realize how hard it was for me to go to work and do my job after a particularly stressful session, and so he is helping me to put myself back togehter before I leave. He knows too that I am feeling too vulnerable to use the couch right now, and he hasn't brought it up or three times per week instead of two. Maybe because I started to say I either wanted to quit or go to once per week.

Of course when I was leaving on Friday, I said at the doorway that I was surprised he wss going to be here for all of our sessions this month. He would not let me out of the door. Had his hand on the handle and just looked at me and said, "you're anticipating the holidays." Oh to hell with him I thought. Also, though he has not gone through an entire month since I started seeing him in May when he hasn't beeen gone at least one Friday or Wednesday. Now we meet on Tuesdays and Fridays.

I am glad to hear things are going well for you. Have you ever said to T that he has piercing eyes. He would probably wonder want to relate that to your past as my T often does when I comment about his facial expressions. My T has not been doing as many links lately as I am doing them myself pretty much now. Sometimes though, he does when I don't seem to get it, and it is never an obvious link but it can sure resonnate.

RealMe


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