Psycho-Babble Psychology | about psychological treatments | Framed
This thread | Show all | Post follow-up | Start new thread | List of forums | Search | FAQ

Re: Do you think it would help to know... JoniS

Posted by RealMe on September 16, 2007, at 21:44:55

In reply to Do you think it would help to know..., posted by JoniS on September 12, 2007, at 16:12:19

This is exactly what I wanted to know from my T I have now especially after what I went through with the other one that said go do ECT. I have been seeing my T for 4.5 months now, and after I think it was 3 months, I asked him if he liked me because he would say stuff that sounded weird but that suggested he liked me--like saying he loved the faces I made and some other stuff I have posted about. SO, I finally asked him becasue he had answered me that he did not DISLIKE me. So, at first he wasn't going to answer me because he said he didn't know me well enough to know what was behind the question. I thought this is nuts, and I told him I don't want to work with someone if that person doesn't like me. I had to think, did I always like the people I worked wtih doing therapy? And the answer is yes. So what is the problem, I thought.

I started crying which I just absolutely hate, and then he said to get out of my head, and what did my heart tell me about whether or not he liked me. Boy talking about being put on the line, but he sounded so nice and caring, and so I said, my heart tells me that you do like me, and he responded with a yes. And that settled it for me. I am not looking for anything more than that he just like me as a person.

Now I think what if he had said nothing. I don't think I could have handled that, and I guess he knew that was so. I was really feeling on the edge at the time and was feeling very vulnerable about stuff I was revealing to him, and I just needed to know that he not only cared about what happened to me (as he had said) but that he liked me too.

So, I did it; I asked. Of course the motivation for asking is important.

RealMe


Share
Tweet  

Thread

 

Post a new follow-up

Your message only Include above post


[783373]

Notify the administrators

They will then review this post with the posting guidelines in mind.

To contact them about something other than this post, please use this form instead.

 

Start a new thread

 
Google
dr-bob.org www
Search options and examples
[amazon] for
in

This thread | Show all | Post follow-up | Start new thread | FAQ
Psycho-Babble Psychology | Framed

poster:RealMe thread:782496
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20070916/msgs/783373.html