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Re: 'moments of meeting'

Posted by annierose on September 8, 2007, at 23:04:08

In reply to Re: 'moments of meeting' DAisym, posted by twinleaf on September 8, 2007, at 20:36:03

I think the amount of attention Dasiy may pay to facial expressions, I pay to the quality of her voice while lying down. Besides the tone, inflection, softness ... the spacing between words (faster, slower) all become important when I can't see her face. Even though I don't see her at all, I can tell when she is smiling, laughing, nodding her head, surprised, disappointed, etc. Sometimes I'll ask directly, "Are you smiling?" "Are you surprised?"

And I always know when she asks a question out of curiosity more than anything else.

Back to "knowing". Yes, I have experienced some of those precious moments while lying down. Mine are much more verbal but I do appreciate non-verbal communication too. I find silence comforting - sometimes. Just to be in her office with zero expectations to say anything. (My t is becoming slightly more comfortable during my silent moods.) When those moments of knowing are happening for me, it feels like we are in total sync with each other emotionally - she could probably finish my sentence/thought as I could hers. It's a deep layer of understanding at one's core.

I'm a little jealous Twinleaf when I hear about a successful five year analysis. What makes an analysis successful? Is there specific criteria that psychologist use to gage results? I ask this as I am approaching 4 years in January with my therapy.

And I smile reading your posts about your new t. When your first t disappointed you so gravely, who would have ever imagined finding another therapist on the first try to not only mend your heart, but move you forward with such strength and love. He seems amazing! Has your husband noticed a change about how you think about therapy and your therapist? You seem to have a fresh outlook on all areas of your life. A door has opened for you and although hesitant, you walked in and are learning to trust again.

 

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