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Re: 'moments of meeting' muffled

Posted by DAisym on September 8, 2007, at 20:30:07

In reply to Re: 'moments of meeting', posted by muffled on September 8, 2007, at 19:08:59

I think I've felt this type of connection to my children when they were infants. There are moments when they look at you in that solemn, wise way that babies have and you want to look back forever. I remember thinking, "I wish I could freeze time."

And recently I had one in reverse with a good friend. She has been going through a really hard time and as I listened to her I could feel her pain and her desperation, even though she wasn't talking overtly about that. I simply said, "it is hard to feel suicidal and even harder to admit it. It might surprise you to know I've been where you are now." She burst into tears and it all poured out. But it was the moment before the tears in which I could feel her feelings and she knew I could. It was powerful.

I can't say that I've ever felt completely seen or felt by anyone except in therapy. But I'm a pro at shielding. I hope I find someone to have these moments with, IRL. In my fantasies, I imagine loving sex to hold some of the same powerful elements of feeling connected to another person. At least I hope it does. But that is a whole different level of trust and openness. (And please don't read this as I want to have sex with my therapist.)

I think in time you will find yourself more and more able to trust another person and make a deep connection. I'll hold that hope for you.

 

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