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Re: Frustrated and unhappy with T

Posted by Racer on September 7, 2007, at 12:11:53

In reply to Frustrated and unhappy with T, posted by girlnterrupted78 on September 7, 2007, at 8:57:43

First of all, I agree with Dinah and RealMe, that this sounds as though maybe a therapist who practices a different style might be a better fit for you right now. Sometimes, the chemistry just isn't quite right, and the therapy relationship is like a marriage -- sometimes we just fit.

There were a few things that I saw, though, that kinda made me wonder if you might be able to get something out of this relationship. Now might not be the time, but I'm going to throw these thoughts out there anyway. It's only meant as observation, and again -- I think Dinah and RealMe are right about the fit, at least right now.

> Second, I began to realize that my T's insecurity and anger issues were getting in the way of my building a sense of trust, comfort, and a healthy relationship with her.

From my reading of your post, I didn't get "insecurity and anger," so much as one particular style of doing therapy. I wonder if something might be going on inside you that might be worth exploring more, that you see it this way.

> I simply did not feel any respect for her, and when I don't feel respect for someone, I tend to despise them.

Again, this sounds like something it might be worth exploring more. I mean that as a general statement, by the way. I saw a therapist once who was so abysmally bad, I had a hard time believing she had any redeeming human characteristics whatsoever. Even now, looking back, while I have a more charitable view of her based on the situation -- naw, on second thought, I don't really have a more charitable view. Never mind...

What I thought of, though, is that the view you described sounds rather absolute to me. It might be worth exploring that issue. (Of course, it might also be worth exploring the issue with another therapist...)

I started to write some more observations to other parts of your post, but honestly? I think my basic idea is probably clear enough, and can be stated in two pretty succinct sentences -- and it's that amazing coming from me? lol

1. It may be that there are issues you could explore regarding your reactions to this therapist.

2. It doesn't sound as though this therapist is the right one for you right now.

I hope this helps, and I hope you find a good match for you in a therapist.




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