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Re: work; relationships and inconsistent personality

Posted by wellzine5 on September 7, 2007, at 9:02:38

In reply to work; relationships and inconsistent personality, posted by anotherpam on September 7, 2007, at 1:15:11

Hi anotherpam! I hope this helps..."We create multiple selves in an ongoing manner through our relationships with many different people. All people progressively modify and reinvent their public personas. We create different characters to respond to different situations and change ourselves in the process. We socially constuct ourselves through the roles we enact." - R. F. Verderber.

So you could "just be yourself" but create different characters to respond to different situations. You can enact the role of a sibling, student, parent, patient, friend, worker, or even a support group member. If you were to ask yourself who is the real "you," I believe all of them are. As a worker, we might be confident, efficient, productive, and agreeable. As a friend, we might be less concerned with time, and cuss occasionally. As a patient, we might listen more than we talk...or is it the other way around :)...Well, I guess you know what I mean. We continue to create and change ourselves by our interactions and how others react to those interactions. As you can see, I am now enacting the role of Mr."know-it-all." :)... Well, maybe supportive group member :) Best of luck to "you!" - wellzine5

> I just started working after 20 years. I have a hard time because I still, after years of therapy, don't know how to be "me". I can't hide anymore at home. It is exhausting, frustrating and lonely to have no idea who to be when a therapist or friend says; "just be yourself". WHAT is myself and how do I figure out how to do me? anyone have some ideas or something helpful so I don't quit this job also. I leave work hating myself so much. It isn't them; it's me. anotherpam




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