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Can you articulate what you want/need? Dory

Posted by Racer on September 4, 2007, at 22:27:55

In reply to tomorrow is the day..., posted by Dory on September 3, 2007, at 21:52:24

Hi, Dory,

I'm sorry you're in so much pain right now. It comes across loud and clear. Your post sounds as though you're contemplating hurting yourself, and that's painful to see. I hope you're taking steps to keep yourself safe.

I have found that sometimes when I'm in a similar state, it helps to try to figure out just what it is that I want. What can I ask for, which would help me feel better? What is it I need? Is there something someone else can do?

Doesn't that sound simple? It's not -- mostly, I am so deeply depressed that all I can come up with is, "Make it better!" or "Make it go away!" But I can't tell what "it" is, so how can either of those things happen? Lately, I've been trying to remind myself to ask that question to myself: what is it I want? If I don't know that, if I can't articulate that, then I certainly can't ask for it.

(And wouldn't it be nice, once in a while, if you didn't have to ask? If someone else just knew? I've never yet had that happen, though.)


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