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Re: Tormented my Pdoc might terminate me (long **c

Posted by Honore on July 13, 2007, at 8:04:14

In reply to Re: Tormented my Pdoc might terminate me (long **csa), posted by OzLand on July 13, 2007, at 6:44:13

I agree with Ozland. It isn't at all that there aren't men who could be supportive and caring about the csa and your feelings about your father.

It could be that you've chosen the wrong men to confide in-- possible from becoming desperate at a moment, and turning to someone who's there-- who may be cold or emotionally limited in response.

Sounds like your prior therapist and this pdoc both were somehow remote and formal people-- who preferred impersonal and cut-and-dried types of tasks-- rather than emotionally intense and open-ended ones.

I'm very sorry about what happened, though. I know what's it's like. It's happened to me also with male (and female) Ts.. Maybe a consultation with a male therapist, for a brief time, to work on some issues-- could provide something you very much are looking for. You then could have a referral from your own T, to someone who's capable of responding. She would be able to give you someone who, in her judgment, could respond adequate or helpfully. It isn't everyone who can-- male or female.

Try, if you possibly can, not to generalize from this man (or several man) and your experiences from childhood. There really are good and kind, and decent people of all types out there-- this guy may not have the the emotional instincts--or training--to do what you needed him to do.

It's not at all your fault-- it's just him, in his individual unique strengths and limitations. I dont think he means to hurt you, may he just is having a hard time coping.





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