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Re: two-faced coworkers JoniS

Posted by peddidle on July 6, 2007, at 13:09:17

In reply to Re: two-faced coworkers peddidle, posted by JoniS on July 6, 2007, at 9:26:57

>Yes, email your T or call her or talk in your next session. Say how it made you feel when you read it.

**I won't see my T until September, so email would probably be the only way.

>
>Don't judge yourself. It wasn't a stupid comment, it hurt you, and rightfully so. You did not get "too sensitive" about it. You are human. Anyone who read that about themself would be hurt.

**Thanks for the reassurance. It seems so superficial, but it really hurt me.


> ** Don't beat yourself up about having looked at it. Everyone has temptations and at some point have been involved in a similar circumstance. The next time you're in this situation you probably wont do it again because nothing good can come from it. But you are right, you did and you can't change that.

**I honestly wasn't expecting to see anything bad in the conversation. You're right, I guess I learned a lesson from it.

>
> If it were me, I would not talk to anyone else in the office about it. That would put you in a triangle - which is not a healthy place to be. Work with your T totally on this. You can't change people in the office (or anywhere for that matter) It would do absolutely no good for you to say anything to the one who wrote it. They have problems, obviously.

**Yeah, I really don't want to make anyone else uncomfortable by putting them in the middle of this. Since I've had a little time to think about it, the only result I can see coming from confronting them about this would be that they would just bad-mouth me even more behind my back. And, yes, clearly they have problems.

>
> Good Luck to you and be good to yourself :)

**Thank you!!
>

 

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