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Re: Why is it so hard to accept my T's care » Daisym

Posted by Lindenblüte on November 15, 2006, at 21:44:30

In reply to Re: Why is it so hard to accept my T's care » rubenstein, posted by Daisym on November 15, 2006, at 20:01:21

I'm sorry it hurts- just remember that the reason why you are having abandonment issues is because you've formed a healthy attachment to your T. You know that he helps, and you anticipate needing help. I think it's wonderful to know that he'll be there- is there some symbol of him that you can carry with you? A mental image? Something that he has said to you?

I think I carry a mental image, a physical picture or a token around-- for the people that have made a difference in my life. My calculus teacher who wouldn't let me quit. My violin teacher who caught me (and my violin!) when I fainted. My college professors who went above and beyond. My pdoc. My oldT. My doctoral advisor. My newT. My husband. My kitty.

If you can train your mind to find a comforting image of the positive figures in your life, well, you will ALWAYS have them with you. Then it's not so scary to say bye at the end of a tough session. They will be with you.

((((T's business card))))
(((((T's voice mail)))))
((((((((memory of her voice))))))))

that's all- and you may hurt, but that's because you feel attachment, which is a sign of growing trust.

take care,




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