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Re: Stupid about vacations Daisym

Posted by toojane on November 9, 2006, at 7:56:30

In reply to Stupid about vacations, posted by Daisym on November 9, 2006, at 1:08:51


> My group thought I was nuts. I thought of you guys and told myself "they won't think I'm nuts." Right? I wish I could just accept vacations the way most clients do. I'm sad. Please don't tell me I shouldn't be.

I guess I'm confused by your group's reaction because instead of wanting to tell you you "shouldn't be" sad that he is going away, I want to know how you possibly couldn't be. How is it "nuts" to miss someone who you see four times a day; someone who is supporting you through a very difficult time in your life; someone you have a very deep and profound connection to?

It's all backwards. Wouldn't there be something wrong with you if you were completely nonchalant about his absence?

It's like the trauma studies on PTSD I've been reading where they look at people who come through horrific experiences unfazed. They are considered "normal" while the people who develop PTSD are studied to see what hormones or chemicals they lack in comparison to the "normal" group. I want to know why living through a tragedy and being untouched by it is "normal"

Can I tell you one thing that has helped me tremendously? Let yourself miss your therapist. When you are feeling sad that he is gone, say exactly that - I miss him - without censoring or judging yourself. It is absolutely okay to miss him. Of course you miss him. I think that is perfectly normal.


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