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Re: by the way...Estella

Posted by henrietta on May 14, 2006, at 20:04:17

In reply to Re: by the way... henrietta, posted by Estella on May 14, 2006, at 18:54:25

NO, you couldn't be offensive as a baby. No baby can be offensive. YOU were not offensive. You were an entirely loveable, helpless being, entering into this world through no action or desire of your own. You had no part in being born.

It is how you were received that is offensive. It is what was done to you that is offensive.

I imagine that mothers who are unable to love their newborn creatures must feel incredible guilt and sadness (and I imagine they, too, suffered as newborns). I imagine the guilt can turn toward the child, to blame, deflecting the guilt,
blaming the child for the parent's inability to feel what he/she is told, and knows in his/her deepest being, is what in an ideal situation he/she would be/should be feeling. And most likely wants to be feeling.

C*%P, I'm so muddled.....expressing myself in such a muddled fashion.

Sorry.

Repetition compulsion=a compulsion to repeatedly(^) repeat a psychically damaging dynamic , recreate it, that is, in the hope of working it through this time to a healthy conclusion. Badly put. Very badly put. Recreating a situation in the hope of achieving a healthier outcome. Badly put again. Repeating it in the hope that someone will respond appropriately to your needs. ???

I'm sorry I'm not at the moment as clear as I'd like to be. I'm just compulsively repeating the same garbled ghump. %}

Time to throw in the towel and clean the kitchen.

XXO hen

 

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