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inner child stuff

Posted by wishingstar on May 3, 2006, at 20:58:28

Does any of your guys Ts ever talk about inner child stuff? How do you feel about it?

In recent weeks, my T has talked more and more about it, and as she does, I feel like she's losing me more and more. Not that I dont understand it.. I do. I just cant connect to it on an emotional level. There for a few weeks, I felt like I was finally hitting emotions (after a year) but as soon as we took this turn, I lost it.

Last session, I was talking about how someone implied recently that I'm whining, and how I'm so afraid that maybe he was right. I'm feeling very guarded about how I speak now. Anyway, her interpretation about the whining was that it's my "inner child" who needs something and is acting out the only way it knows how. She says I shouldnt ignore it and its okay to be acting that way, if I am indeed whining (she wouldnt say whether she thought I was or not, but by the conversation, I guess she agrees). I kept trying to say that I understand that my inner child is probably hurt and wounded.. however, I'm not 5, so even if it is wounded, its not okay to whine. I need to find a better way to deal, and basically, that means tell it to shut up and deal with the hurt as an adult. She disagreed. Unfortunately, the session sort of ended there.

I can see how we all may have an inner child buried within us that holds onto the hurt and pain from our childhoods... but I'm not a child, and I just feel like I have to deal with things as an adult now.

The harder she tries to convince me or use this interpretation of things, the less connected I'm feeling to her. It's just too abstract for me. But I dont know if I can tell her that. I worry way too much about hurting her feelings (and she knows that).. but also, when I have told her what I need or what isnt working in the past, nothing really has changed. That makes me wonder if I'm the problem.. am I just bad at therapy? She really is helpful most of the time.. anyway. That's off topic.

Just wondering about any of your alls experiences with this. Do you like it? Think its crazy? Anything?




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