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Nope Deneb

Posted by Racer on February 25, 2006, at 2:49:18

In reply to More about loving Dr. Bob, posted by Deneb on February 24, 2006, at 22:18:38


> Is it real love that I'm experiencing?
>
> Deneb

Nope, it's not. Right now, your idea of Dr Bob is awfully appealing, because you've created him. You need to find some sort of comfort, so you've chosen Dr Bob to be your comfort, you "love" him because he seems to be filling that need, but you know what? HE'S not filling that need, you're filling that need using a sort of placeholder that looks like him.

Right now, you feel as though you love Dr Bob, but what if he were just like all the other people around you in real life? What if he was crabby to you in the mornings? Or if his table manners annoyed you? What if he had a harsh voice? What if he spoke curtly, in short, sharp sentences? What if he was so shy he couldn't look anyone in the eye? What if he lisped? What if he wore his shirts inside out and an aluminium hat so that aliens couldn't intercept his brain waves? What if he was always in that "blank slate" mode, asking, "And what does that mean to you?" Do you see where I'm going with this? You don't know if any of those could be true, because you don't know him. You know the BobFigure you've made.

I hope this makes sense to you, Deneb, and that you think about it.


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