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Re: Worst Ever (trigger) cricket

Posted by fairywings on October 21, 2005, at 14:58:24

In reply to Worst Ever (trigger), posted by cricket on October 20, 2005, at 12:52:14

Hi ((((Cricket))),

I'm so sorry that things went so badly. It sounds to me like this guy, for some sick reason, wants you on the hook. You know some Ts are psychopathic, and he'd be smart enough to know who he could manipulate, and who he couldn't. I hope you'll find the little girl and let her post so we can try to reassure her that there's someone out there who will be more caring and have real concern for her need for this T. I can certainly understand the not wanting to let go, but give it a few weeks with someone who is truly wonderful, and hopefully she'll be able to give up her grip on him.

> He said she would have aborted my son. I said no she wouldn't have. He said, "She wouldn't have? Well that doesn't sound like her to me. That's very different from the way I see her."

How in the world would this benefit you in any way? This was nothing short of hurtful, harmful, and sick. I can't imagine why any T would ever say something so awful.

> Then at the end he said (and he named three of my parts) were modeled after my parents.

> He said I have no problem with those parts. You're the one who has a problem. You have a problem with yourself.

> He said Your parents weren't so horrible. They didn't kill you.

I just don't see how this would benefit you in any way. He knows your history, to say your parents "weren't so bad" is just sadistic and manipulative. It's retraumatizing you. He wants you to feel unsure of yourself and dependent on him.

> Actually I am not sure I want to ask you all that question. I mean tell me if you think it's me.

It's not you. He's sick. Your little one will feel bad for awhile, that's to be expected, but once you find someone who treats you with kindness and caring, she will come out of her shell and thrive. I felt that way when I left my ex T, and it hurt till about now. He was nowhere near as mean as yours.





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