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Re: Pride goeth before a fall, etc. etc. Dinah

Posted by orchid on October 17, 2005, at 17:37:54

In reply to Pride goeth before a fall, etc. etc., posted by Dinah on October 17, 2005, at 17:06:16

Everybody wants to feel special to their therapist. Irrespective of sexual attraction or not.

And what you have written about your relationship with your father is perfectly valid. All of us want to go that extra mile to get the affection if it is not offered freely. Kids will go that extra mile to get what they want. Just that every kid shows it in different way - some kids show that they need attention by being sick all the time, some pretend to be indifferent, some rude, some arrogant, some get abusive, some get very polite and nice, some become the woman in the family, some take care of others.

It was not your fault. You just had one of the many coping mechanisms.

Plus, with your T, maybe you ended up developing some of the same feeling - take care of him and try to be extra nice to him and be loyal to him, and hoped that he would reciproacate by treating you special. IT is a trap we all fall into. And then it hurts when it doesn't happen. But guess what, Ts are aware of this attribute, and don't wnat to encourage it, simply becuase it is not good for you in the long run.


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