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Pride goeth before a fall, etc. etc.

Posted by Dinah on October 17, 2005, at 17:06:16

In reply to Re: I don't feel the same way 10derHeart, posted by Dinah on October 17, 2005, at 16:39:20

I remember when Ms. Lott was here, talking about falling into the trap of wanting to feel special.

And I thought "That will never happen to me. Not with my therapist's strong boundaries. Besides, I have no sexual interest in him."

Well, I still have no sexual interest in him, but the rest of it was sheer arrogance on my part.

I did fall into that trap.

I think I started to relate to him in the way I'm most comfortable relating with "grown ups", especially grown up men. I started to relate to him the way I did with Daddy. I always knew the impulse towards my therapist - at least since Daddy died, but he never gave me an inch to do it before.

I took care of Daddy in some ways so that he would take care of me in the ways I needed. So that he would love me, like he didn't love the rest of the family. Because he appreciated that I loved him, and showed it by taking care of him, and he reciprocated by loving me, and showing it by taking care of me.

That shouldn't be wrong, should it?

 

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