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Re: I don't like my therapist ClearSkies

Posted by fairywings on October 13, 2005, at 0:54:14

In reply to I don't like my therapist, posted by ClearSkies on October 11, 2005, at 7:38:23

Hi Clear,

a few things you said concern me. First is that you don't like your T. If that's truly the case, I'd keep her while you look, but be looking for someone younger with less health issues, so you're not as afraid of abandonment, and someone you feel more connected to.

Since you had such a long and bad marriage, maybe working it out with a male T would be beneficial (transference)? And if they're young, less chance of a pregnancy affecting the therapy relationship? (Sorry, I don't mean to always be plugging for a male T)

If you're listening to what she says and not arguing but not agreeing with her, and then going home and feeling like you don't feeling misinterpreted, then maybe she's not getting you, but maybe you NEED to disagree with her! Then you have some very real abandonment issues, and she's talking about grooming someone else to take over? How are you supposed to feel? I think your concerns are very valid, and you should talk to her about them.

I'd tell her like it is, tell her exactly how you feel. It's your therapy, your life, your paying for it, and you're the one who benefits or loses. Take the post, edited if need be, and let her read it. Then go based on her reaction, and whether she can adequately set your mind at ease. It might be a turning point, or it might be the end, but at least you'll have given it a fair shake. When do you see her again?

Good luck!
fw


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