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Re: I wish I could have been a simple house wife orchid

Posted by fairywings on October 12, 2005, at 23:23:55

In reply to I wish I could have been a simple house wife, posted by orchid on October 12, 2005, at 20:31:49


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> But now sometimes I wish for is I could have been a simple house wife.. stayed in some city near by my parents, got kids at 21, 22, cook, clean, stitch, teach the kids, and don't worry about anything else !!
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Hi Orchid,

I think sometimes we just think "the grass must be greener", and wish for what we don't have. Maybe once you have it, you'll feel differently.
I agree with HF, there's nothing at all simple about being a housewife and having kids. You want to complicate things and yet have what can be the most wonderful, rewarding job you'll ever do? Have kids! You're never off, your sleep cycle isn't your own for years, finding time for yourself and your needs can be difficult, you worry a LOT more and you have a lot more to worry about, you're at the beck and call of a baby (or babies) for years, you have to do a lot of dirty work, and it's all expected w/o any compensation or a pat on the back most of the time.

On the other hand, you have the reward of raising beautiful children who love and adore you, who you raise to be independent and can live well on their own one day, and who are your pride and joy. There's just nothing that it compares with.

> Way too many complications.

It sounds like you've accomplished a lot for your age. I hope that somehow you can "stop and smell the roses". You should be proud of your accomplishments, and know that any knowledge you have will be helpful when you do have kids. Old age comes too fast, and once you have kids it seems to fly by much more quickly, it's like sand through your fingers.

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> I just want to go and sleep in my parents house. But I don't like it that much there also. There is always too much fear and talk of things which could go wrong all the time with my parents.

Sounds like you are having trouble just finding your place, or finding a place where you feel safe and can be happy. I hope you find that.

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> Actually I like my in laws house that way. It is much simpler and livelier there. Maybe I should just go and sleep there. And forget all about working etc.

Do you really want to quit working? What would you do with yourself all day? Seems like there would be way too much time to dwell on what's not right, and what "could have been".

fw


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