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Need advice about friendship with former therapist

Posted by Blossom on October 11, 2005, at 21:51:58

Hi everyone,

I have a question for you. I know I don't post here too often, but maybe a few of you have read some of my previous posts about my (now former) therapist. So basically, I terminated with him last April. By the time I terminated, our relationship had essentially become a friendship. It was definitely 2-sided. He even admitted that he had told me at least twice as much personal information about himself as any other client, and he said at one point "yeah, I guess we have become friends." He also made some remarks that led me to suspect that he had some erotic feelings for me, though he never made any direct admission of that. On the other hand, he had said several times that he didn't become friends with clients for several reasons, and reiterated this during our next to last session (although I never brought up the subject). When I finally terminated, I grieved horribly for him. It was just terrible. It was like he had died. Then one day, I decided I would just keep in touch anyway. Now, I email him fairly often, and I see him at the clinic about once a week. I've met his wife and daughter incidentally. We share mutally about our lives, and once we went to a nearby cafe, he offered to buy me something, and we shared a cookie. He's more than twice my age, and I have no intentions of any romantic relationship with him.

I am just wondering if this is okay. I feel kinda weird showing my face in the clinic when I am not his client anymore. What will the other therapists think? And is this considered improper? I kinda wonder why he allows this after he's reiterated that he doesn't do things this way. Maybe I should ask? But then I'm afraid that he'll terminate the friendship. He is a funny, interesting person, and I do enjoy the relationship.

What do you guys think?





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