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Re: How therapists think or feel (trigger)

Posted by alexandra_k on October 8, 2005, at 21:34:32

In reply to How therapists think or feel (trigger), posted by daisym on October 8, 2005, at 20:26:17

sorry daisy, i just realised that i was distracted from your concerns onto my particular gripe...

because what you really want to know...

is: does my therapist really care about me through this, or is he angry with me?

so here i would say...

that it depends on how he is seeing the situation.
if he thinks you are attempting to engage in some kind of power struggle or something like that, then i guess he is likely to feel frustrated.

(though linehan has a much better conceptualisation of 'power struggles' too imo)

could you maybe have a chat with him?
if he accepts your reasons behind your ideation then i would say that it would be very unlikely indeed that he would feel mad at you.

another thing...

i would say that the reaction formation stuff (if that is indeed what it is) is supposed to warn therapists that anger / hostility / frustration might underlie BAD BOUNDARIES. and so here i'm thinking of such things as letting someone call you at any time (even at 4am) or spending lots of session time holding a client or things like that. that those are the kinds of 'caring behaviours' that they are saying might come from repressed hostility.

(though even here i would want to say that it is still more about fear of powerlessness - but try and find a psychodynamic theorist who is willing to admit to that ha!)

i think i'm raving more than anything...




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