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Re: feeling totally frusterated!

Posted by PM80 on June 13, 2005, at 13:37:00

In reply to Re: feeling totally frusterated! happyflower, posted by Tamar on June 13, 2005, at 12:54:55

I think you should tell him how you feel, but do take into consideration HOW you tell him. You have a right to every feeling that passes through your body. It is what it is. But be blantantly honest. I have found that it actually really works with my therapist. Here are the things I would directly say:

"I feel like you are being a mad scientist with my brain."
"I feel angry about that."
"when you told me that I am critical of you, I wasn't sure why you said it. I wondered if it bothered you. I wondered if I bothered you. Now I am wondering if I need to be lady-like becuase I am afraid that any other behavior at all will make me look like a whiner or a bitch."
"I am afraid of saying something wrong."
"I am trying to open up, but I do not know how to without being critical."
"How do I do that?"

Being absolutely honest makes it not critical. It is not manipulative. Just lay the facts out there and your T may surprise you.


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