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Re: Scared, ready to expose my skeltons to T happyflower

Posted by fallsfall on June 10, 2005, at 12:13:14

In reply to Scared, ready to expose my skeltons to T, posted by happyflower on June 10, 2005, at 11:18:37

I understand completely.

Yes, I think you are correct that you need to be completely honest and open with your therapist. Not telling your therapist doesn't make your feelings go away - it just keeps them secret. So telling your therapist doesn't make them more "real" - they already *are* real. Telling your therapist just gives him the chance to look at what is real with you - so you don't have to look at it by yourself. He can help you get some perspective on things.

I understand your terror regarding your marriage. But I do believe that the solution is not for you to shoulder all of the pain yourself. The solution is to see if your husband and your marriage and you can all grow together. The answer may be yes (I hope so!), but the answer may be no. For me, the answer was no. But at least I know that I did everything I could to be sure that I wasn't choosing the answer for my husband - I was giving him the opportunity to decide if we would grow together, or grow apart.

My best wishes to you.

 

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