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Many times I have felt it. happyflower

Posted by pinkeye on June 7, 2005, at 13:33:36

In reply to It's Getting Dark in Here, posted by happyflower on June 7, 2005, at 13:19:58

If you look at the archives, you can see how many times I have said "it is time to let go and make peace.. whatever happened - happened" kind of stuff.

But I always kept coming back to it. That was the indication that I was not fully cured and there yet.

One thing I learnt, this kind of artificial putting things in the back and trying to move on doesn't work. Atleast not for me. The problem and disturbance is always there. Time makes things dull and makes you cope a little better, but if the wound is big enough, it never really heals. IT only dulls the pain.

The real healing (for big enough issues) is to continue to work on it. Sometimes it takes years, and you dont really know where you are going, but you have to trust the process (and in God if you believe in one) to really cure.

But that does not mean you need to obsess about the problems and ruminate. You need to do very postiive things simulateneously. You should not wait for the bad things to get cured fully before you start your life. Striking a balance is more important ( I failed to do that and instead ruminated a lot - try not to do that).


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