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Re: Daisy and others..... messadivoce

Posted by Daisym on June 3, 2005, at 20:12:47

In reply to Daisy and others....., posted by messadivoce on June 3, 2005, at 13:14:46

I know what you mean about what a hard day that is. I suspect this year will be harder than last.

I've been "lucky" I guess -- my dad lives on the opposite coast so I rarely see him on Father's day. I usually just send a gift and a card. Nothing too personal. The times he has been here I make it more of a family situation so I'm not alone with it.

Most of the time I focus on my husband. He is a pretty great dad most of the time.

The other thing I wanted to say is that superficial coping is totally OK. So is staying in bed all day with the flu. I think sometimes being authentic is over-rated. I'm not sure my dad deserves my real self -- it is pretty fragile right now and he would just bruise me. So I make nice and we all get a long and when we go home, we talk to our spouses about how F-up the rest of the family is.

I told my son today, "families are so complicated." He said "Yeah, but you aren't supposed to know that when you are still a kid."
:(

I wish I had wiser words.

 

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