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Re: How? Trigger*** daisym

Posted by fallsfall on June 1, 2005, at 10:11:23

In reply to Re: How? Trigger*** antigua, posted by daisym on May 31, 2005, at 23:34:16

>He asked me to come back tomorrow and keep talking about this. I don't know if I can. I spouted off and now I feel bad. It isn't his fault that I want something from him I can't have. And I refuse to manipulate the situation at all by bringing suicidal feelings into the discussion.

You say "It isn't his fault". Do you think that when you bring these things up that they are painful for him? It sounds like you don't want to bring them up because you are afraid you will hurt him. I believe that he is skilled enough to look objectively at what you say - and to see what it means to you, and to not feel badly if he can't give you things that he can't give you. So I don't think that you will make *him* unhappy by bringing these things up. That said, however, it may make *you* unhappy. But, unfortunately, sometimes we have to do that to make progress.

You are at a very difficult time. Please trust him to help you through this. Try your hardest to get back into this discussion. Bring your post and read it at the beginning so you will have time to work on this.

Have you told him how poorly you are feeling? You need to tell him how close to the edge you are. He needs to know. If you can't tell him, then bring in some journalling, or posts, or emails from friends. He *can* read babble if you print it out for him.

I think that it will not be helpful for you to try to "tough" this out. There is too much going on. He can help you sort it out. I know this is really, really hard. And I know that you are really, really trying. Please keep trying - and let me know if a nosy loudmouth friend can help.

 

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