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Re: Approximate relationships

Posted by alexandra_k on May 24, 2005, at 18:44:17

In reply to Re: Wow..., posted by alexandra_k on May 24, 2005, at 18:31:56

I think...
I think the notion is that when people say they have a relationship with someone they are usually talking about the following sorts of things:

- partner / lover
- children
- parents
- family
- friends

These are the people that we tend to have strong ties to and strong feelings for.

But strong feelings arise in therapy...

So... What sort of relationship is that.

It isn't friendship (though it might seem like your therapist is your best friend - there are important differences - so therapy is an approximation of friendship)

It isn't that the therapist is your parent (though it might seem like it etc.)

And so on...

And one thing... One thing that is different is reciprocity. That is inherantly lacking in a therapy relationship (but not on Babble...)

I think she wants to say that the feelings are real - but also wants to acknowledge some of the important differences between these RL relationships and a therapy relationship.

My understanding of the symbolic nature...

Is that the therapist kind of becomes a symbol for 'humanity' and how everyone will relate to you if you do / disclose certain things... You tell your t your 'deepest darkest fears / secrets' and how your t handles that becomes the limits on how much other people will be able to accept you.

I mean, if your therapist can't accept you in all your glory, then who can???

But I think there is more to it than that...

The schemas you use as a lens through which to see your t mean that you see your t as a symbol as well. A symbol is something that REPRESENTS something else. A t can represent your child (whether you actually have any or not) your parent your lover etc.

Everyone... everyone in RL that you could potentially have a relationship with and everyone who you have had a relationship with.

But I am taking pseudoephedrine for my cold... and so maybe I'm talking out of my *ss...





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